Making your mind up

[4getmenot]

After the question earlier why do men move on so quickly, I want to know why they cant just make up their minds?? Many of you that have seen my posts on here know that just lately I've been clearing out the trash in my life, basically got rid of the man I was seeing because he wouldn't commit, said he didn't want me and that we just didn't work. Hurt like hell but Friday we said our goodbyes because as I knew it wasn't going anywhere I also knew we couldn't still be mates because we give in too much to temptation, anyway lastnight I had a bloke round that the ex would never let me see before and while this bloke was round I got a txt saying 'I see you're with someone else now' and 'not having a go but I didn't think it would be so soon :-(' for one why's he spying on me and another why cant I have people round, I'd understand if it was me that finished with him but he didn't want me!!

[redcrx]

because he doesnt want to think that you could possibly get over him that quickly, even tho it was just a male friend that you had visit and not a replacement. Just as youd be hurt if you thought he might have started seeing someone else already.
Just because he didnt want to commit doesnt mean he didnt like you. And it also doesnt mean that he wouldnt feel slightly put out at not being irreplacable.

[legend759]

hes a guy.
we dont like to think that we are so easily replaced.
unfortunately we are.
men arent as strong as they make out .
spying is not a nice thiong,but im guessing he still cares about you , maybe not enough to commit,but its really up to what you wanna do now.
the worlds your oyster girl.

[samuel23]

Agree with redcrx and legend. it's an ego thing.
As legend says 4get ~ the world's now your oyster
........just one thought.
If the world is your oyster, lets hope your not allergic to seafood!! :-0.

[4getmenot]

I know he did care, he even cried when we said goodbyes and I've never seen him do that. But it so makes me angry that he cares but we cant be together. But I am getting on because thats what I have to do.

[missyR]

Too right 4get ;o)

[legend759]

make sure its what you really want.

sometimes its difficult to go back once youve done things.


just a thought

[banjosister]

Hey 4getmenot,

I had a guy like that everytime I asked what he wanted he said I don't know. He kept me hanging on with hope that we would get together and talk things through. In the end I decided that I don't know actually meant no.

Well he certainly didn't mean yes.

He doesn't want you but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either.

xx

[4getmenot]

Its not about what I want legend, he didnt want me, I tried all the ultimatems and still went back to him thinking he might change but he never did. He had his chance its gone.