how can you tell?

[legend759]

how can you tell if someone online really likes you?
if you havent met?
they show an attraction to you.
is this normal or are they infatuated/deluded?
should you avoid them?
or are they just having fun'
how can you tell?

[maidon]

I dont think you can really like someone you have never met - how can they show attraction if you've never met ? you can have a rapport with them / just have fun .

[legend759]

ive heard of couples splitting up cos of online relationships.
some where the folk are on different sides of the world and havent met.
how do you explain that??

[maidon]

i think folk are looking for a wee bit excitement and to have a bit of a laugh isnt such a bad thing. I met my partner through an internet dating site and yeh it was exciting logging on to see if there were any messages.

I think where couples split up cos of the internet then they couldnt have a v. good relationship anyway.

I can understand how there could be a rapport but dont think you can get to know someone well enough til you actually meet them.
that's just my opinion

[legend759]

ive heard folk say they fell in love online.
chatting.

before even meeting.
i think its just infatuation or an attempt to brighten up their life

[maidon]

yep - I agree

[legend759]

a woman who agrees with me!!!!


im suddenly infatuated and deeply in love with you maiden.

thats if you are a maiden lol.

oops .
shoulda checked first.

[spazvas]

Must admit, find you very amusing...................have to have a look to see what the legend has to say for himself!!!
So, is that infatuation, or am I being deluded?!!!

[maidon]

ha ha !! maidon is right

but no - you can't be infatuated / deeply in love with me - we've never met (or have we)?

[legend759]

only met you in a dream maidon..


only in a dream.


ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[porfavour]

Oh legend (759! - and counting or are there really nearly 800 of you- how would a girl stand a chance? twins is my limit! lol) - you old romantic.
Before the net,we fell inlove with voices on the phone in 'head office' and imagined all the lovely voices belonged to super fit guys.... well it suited us to. We flirted outrageously with them for 6 month periods til they came to HO for their meetings, we all hid in the loos pretending we were other people, mean heartless creatures that we were, we also licked out wounds because we had all been secretly believing that they were there to sweep-us-off-our feet. Oh to be 17 again, and hold out that much optimism on a velvet tone from Huddersfield, or a cheeky chappy from Liverpool.
We since learnt that they were glad we were hiding, as they had 'clocked-us' before we scurried off, and our dulcet tones and sexual innuendo was less well receive from a spotty group of teenagers. LOL
Before AB I had never spoken on the net, and yes the level of conversation goes beyond regular dating question, much safer without any preconceived ideas. You open up, share secrets and get the gentle responses you ache to hear. It only means a lot more to you if you are single or not happy in love. Grass is always greener.

I did a little experiment recently, for which I have my wrists slapped (quite rightly), but believe lots of others are creating a different personality from their selves to see how people treat them differently.

[porfavour]

...sorry, rest of post here...
Too much wine and ramblig tonight. Poor you, you dont have to read it, unless you value your hard disk drive (lol).
...If the attention makes you feel good and you enjoy flirting back, then its all safe fun.

Think or all your 'sad-act' mates that can't find a girl at all, and ask yourself if they can delude themselves and some girl into believing them..... call in reality.....this is cyber! It is not real, you could walk past and not know they existed,,, they could even be a man. lol. Stranger things have happened, but we wont go into that here right now. Just be warned, all is not exactly as it seems...

Remember, feet on floor - under computer table. Drinks out with mates and mingers! It's the rules, sorry to let you down, but you would probably appreciate a soft sensitive kind caring soul (with own hair and teeth) meeting on a chance, maybe the night you take off from AB. Actually, that would be great...think of all the crazy, funny stories you could tell her.
An old friend (songwriter and speechwriter) has always told me the sure fire way to get any physical chemistry is to make sure she has already laughed her pants off! Lol but he's good at it!

[silverdaler]

i think there is something to be said about getting to know someone without knowing what they look like.
People who are quite shy can allow someone to get to know them without any visual barriers.
Of course, if they find each other physically attractive too, thats an added bonus.
I have a friend who met a girl on the internet many years ago (before web cams were readily available).
He fell in love with her and now lives happily in the USA !

[legend759]

por favour an interesting,if slightly long tale .
not sure exactly what youre trying to say.
but laughed at you all hiding in the toilets.
i guess online aint real,well only t a point

[dontask]

well its not me legend after you !!.

[unruliejulie]

i agree with silverdaler, you are getting to know the personality without the barriers. What someone looks like is irrelevant if you fall for their personaliy. Beauty is after all, in the eye of the beholder.