How can I get him to be more attentive?

[Fran666]

My boyfriend have a fantastic relationship,we live in different cities (about 2 hours by car) and I make a real effort to ring/text him when we aren't together. I'd just love him to make some of the effort communication-wise, even a sweet text! How can I do this? I've tried ignoring him but I'm incrediably impatient

[4getmenot]

you cant if thats what he like, then he shouldnt be changed. surely you getting him to text would just mean its not come from him. Be happy with what you have :-) We'd all love for some men to pay us more attention but thats some men! Dont start playing games to make him txt you, thats when it all goes wrong.

[Roughquest]

Hi Fran, You sound like me! I am also very impatient and the guy I am seeing is like this - I too have ignored him for 2 days now and no communication in return, trouble is - men do not think as we do, they cant see that they are doing anything wrong in not communicating - its true - they arent doing anything wrong, we automatically assume they dont like us anymore lol! I know it is very frustrating but try and relax, as you say you have a fantastic relationship, dont court disaster - dont do like i do, be happy and take each day as it comes...men are like boys, just praise him when he does contact you ! Take care
RQ xx

[Echo Beach]

I was in this situation and we split up as I felt like I was the only person making an effort and this ultimately led to arguments and the feeling of rejection, especially when I had ignored him for three days and he didn't seem to notice!

Please don't think that this will be your fate but just accept that ultimately, no matter how you look at it, men and women are two entirely different creatures and that realistically neither person will, or should be expected to, change for the other.

[Echo Beach]

It's just that sometimes, the nudge needs to be with a bulldozer, lol