my new job and relationship with my girlfriend

[worried.me]

Following from yesterdays post...

I am still feeling really hopeless and although i have been for a bit of a walk today i feel so low and cant find anything to get me going. I have managed to sort my room out a bit but not to get on with much else on a list of things to do. I have had a day off work today and always feel so bad if i dont do much on my day off but then again if i do too much then i am tired when i go to work the next day and the tiredness then builds up over the week.

I just dont have the energy both mentally and pysically to do what i want or think i need to be doing. I am very silly i know but i just get so frustrated. Also with my new job on the horizon in a few weeks i feel really bad that i will not be able to see my girlfriend as much as i would like to. She lives 150 miles away, i wonder if it is worth me seeing her every other weekend but it would be a shame to part as we have recently been getting on very well and she is such a help to me.

[silverdaler]

Oh hun, my heart goes out to you.
Dont give up on yourself or your girlfriend.
Where theres life theres hope. Take each hour as it comes and try to stay focused.
Good luck
xx

[megan07]

Hello Worried.me dont put your self down you are not silly and if you do not feel like doing anything on your list of to do then thats ok just try and relax and chill out and your list of to do will still be there when you feel like doing things on it did you read my little post i sincerely wish you lot of love and good luck i do understand how you feel my darling as i have gone through the same please believe me you will be ok keep strong as you are loved and people and friends and family need you take good care with lots of love from megan07

[worried.me]

thank you for your good wishes here and in my thread yesterday.

i have never been a very confident or positive person so im not sure id really like to be positive i cant see the point i am not worth getting anywhere or having good things happen. if my girlfriend does not leave me due to lack of seeing her due to my job then she will get fed up of me being so low. i cant help it its just i have such poor balance of things atm. i need to work to get money but the more i work and get stressed the more i cant cope and need to take time out.

[sunflower71]

Its good that you said 'atm' so you recognise that its only somthing that happening at the moment.
chin up and hope that this site is helping somewhat.
your not alone even though you feel as if you are.
wishing u the best,

[worried.me]

thank you. i feel maybe although the emphasis is on work at this time that should help with money things and maybe moving out etc. but i just cant see anything going right and would rather just be at home all dayy being obssesive about cleaning and tidying etc.

i do feel very alone though i have no confidence that anything has can or will ever go right for me and what i want more than anything is a friend or two. i have a long list of things which are making me feel bad and i take things to heart so much i store bad things but good comments or events dont tend to stick in my head.

[worried.me]

sorry

[megan07]

Hello worried.me do not say sorry you could have pots and pots of money and a fantastic house and job and for what ever reason you can still feel down just remember keep your chin up you will get through this love megan07

[worried.me]

well ok to give more of a response to what was said before i admit most people have their problems but to those who want to tell me where to go i say this...i dont have anyone else to talk to at the moment and need some sort of an outlet as i am so frustrated with myself. i cant see a way forward and it is not for want of trying as past effort has not come to much.

[megan07]

Hello Worried.me is there anything you can think of at the moment that you could have a little giggle to your self somthing funny that has happend in the passed have a think and get back to me and i will tell you what my dog done this afternoon love megan07

[KaKa]

hiya, firstly what is your new job (if you dont mind me asking), will it be very demanding. Think of all the things you are good at and make a list! are you a good friend, are you reliable, making decisions, trustworthy, good listener or giving advise? also, i know its not the same but my hubby lives about 400mls away and when we do see each other we make it all special and think up romantic things to do for the 3 days a month he is home....its exciting too! You must try and look in the mirror each day and say something wonderful to yourself! i do...even if i look like hell...I AM WORTHY!!! please try it....YOU ARE WORTHY OF THAT TOO!!!

[badgerchops]

Hi again mate
Carry on seeing your girlfriend but alternate meeting up at each others towns. i.e She comes to you every other weekend and you to hers the next time. It wont tire you out so much as it will only be a 150mile journey once a month for you and once for her. thats fair. You need the understanding support which she provides so do not cut your arm off there..

Stress brings on tiredness sometimes as its mentally draining when you have your head spinning constantly. Get as many early nights as you can and dont apologise for thinking you are not doing anything constructive.

Do a little bit here and there and like you said, tidy your room to keep your mum happy etc. Try not to overthink what you think you should be doing. It doesnt matter, just do what you can, rest for thenext 3 weeks so that you are fresher for the promotional start.

When you need to let it out, come on here and release it. Everyone is understanding as we have read your posts in the past.

Do a little each day but do not overload yourself as big things are too hard to handle at the moment.

take care x

[megan07]

Hello Worried.me how are you today i have been thinking of you i will be back about 6 o clock tonight lets have a little chat about things that make us smile or giggle my grandchildren come out with some funny one liners let me share them with you or we can just chat about how your day has been love megan07

[silverdaler]

Cleversod - there is NO point in telling someone with 'depression' to 'pull themselves together !
It is an ilness. If you had cancer (god forbid) you wouldnt expect to be told to pull yourself together. Have a bit of understanding for goodness sake, and thank your lucky stars its not you!
We are here for you worried.me, but i do wish you would change your name, its a bit too negative hun!

xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[Mammar]

Listen to Silverdaler - she is spot on.
I hope you will believe me when I tell you that you WILL come through this. Yes, I know - you really can't take that on board at present but little by little, small step by small step, you will.
You carry on talking to us. We'll help you!

[silverdaler]

I am so very sorry to hear about your wife 'clever' - an unfortuate comparison under the circustances, I apologise if i have offended you ,and I do believe that positive thinking is beneficial for some people. However, I was merely trying to point out that clinical depression (not that i am an expert) is an ILLNESS of the mind which cannot be treated easily or flippantly. It just seemed rather a cruel response to someone who is clearly in turmoil.

i hope you accept my apology

x

[megan07]

HI hope you are ok

[worried.me]

hey there. i am sorry i have not come back to the posts here but i was working all day yesterday and actually had quite a good day. your advice has been good and i will take note! i will post again prob next week. thank you.

[megan07]

Hello i am so HAPPY you had a good day you can do it you will come through we are all rooting for you ENJOY the rest of the week and come back next week and let us know how it is going love and best wishes megan07