If there was a guy who

[SKA]

was a bit of a criminal and he was crazy about you and told you, you were the best thing to ever happen to him what would you do??

[crete]

all joking aside what is the relevance he did psychology at uni ? the point is he is a previous drug dealer who is manipulating you, sorry , if you trusted him no way would you be seeking advice on this site, leave the relationship is my advice, good luck

[kate1976]

I know an ex drug dealer, he's turned his life around, nice guy now and he's said he'll never go back to it, so it can work!

However reading more I don't think you should be with this guy, if he's emotionally blackmailing you now then it could get worse, leave well alone, be mates if need be but don't get into a relationship with him just because he's saying he'll go back to it, if he goes back to it then he's not worth a second thought and it won't be your fault at all!!

[SKA]

ok well you all mostly are echoing my one of my best mates so i suppose i should get rid but its not that easy because he's so sweet!!

[crete]

SKA , no disrespect intended in this question but how old are you ?

[redcrx]

he saying things like that to you and you think hes SWEET????

listen to your friend

[kate1976]

Well of course it's up to you, you could give it a shot if you think it's worth it but just be careful, he could turn out like my mate and be marvellous but it's the emotional blackmail that'd worry me!! Don't let him control you even the sweetest guys can be manipulative!

[SKA]

no no no no no I mean he's just sweet in general, well he is to me
crete im 19 - please dont say anything patronizing now

[melons]

Crete - Yeah you are right. I stole a sweet from the shop once does that make me a criminal?

[crete]

SKA ive no intention of being patronising to you and had no wish to offend you either,

[melons]

why are you asking this question???
If you think he will go back to it then whats the point. Saying that you are the only thing that will keep him from it is bull in my opinion. Dont bother going there. Just say that you are not interested and leave it at that!

[crete]

no melons it does not, im giving my view as was asked,

[4getmenot]

but you can tell you're young... thought I'd finish that off crete :-) you are at that age when you dont need do be involved with someone like that but also you're at that age where no matter what we say you'll make your own mind up anyway. Sorry

[melons]

crete, my note came at the wrong point you asked me more info on being a criminal as previous page!

i agree with pretty much everything being said by Crete. dont even go there. We would patronize you because you are 19. It just isnt worth all the heart ache my love. say you get dragged into something you dont understand and then thee is no way out! Think about it. Even your friends are saying no. Honestly there will be nicer people out there for you and at 19 you still have ages ahead of you.

How long have you known him?

[crete]

thanks melon a misunderstanding, i agree with your answer,

[SKA]

4getmenot - thats sound like something I would say to my friends when they come to me for advice as I'm normally the sensible one thats why I've only told one of my close friends about him

[4getmenot]

then go back to being the sensible one

[SKA]

I started talking to him early december by accident

[melons]

honestly huney drop him, dont even go there. i am actually quite worried about you. I have done some stupid things in my time and so wish i hadnt. please dont live to regret it.
When i was 19 i was desperate to have a boyfriend and i made some stupid choices, now im married to someone i love and couldnt dream of being without.
what happens if he gets you into drugs? what happens if he starts asking you to hold or hide stuff for him? Its a can of worms for you and i personally would leave them shut and find someone else are you scared to erase his number and just cut him off? ignore the mind games, he is proving he isnt worthy of you by black maling!