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whats more important
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career or children?
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Well i'm goign to have to make this decision this year as i'm still pretty young and have a baby on the way...
My tricky decision at the moment is...
do we buy a LOVELY two bedroom flat in London (which if i work full-time we'd be able to afford comfortably) but risk missing my daughters first moments (!) or do we buy a not so nice two bedroom flat in a not so great part of London(possibly further out of central London) but get the opportunity to see our duaghter first moments!!
Decisions....decisions...decisions...
My tricky decision at the moment is...
do we buy a LOVELY two bedroom flat in London (which if i work full-time we'd be able to afford comfortably) but risk missing my daughters first moments (!) or do we buy a not so nice two bedroom flat in a not so great part of London(possibly further out of central London) but get the opportunity to see our duaghter first moments!!
Decisions....decisions...decisions...
children are a lifetime commitment, the answer , one parent to work part time, be prepared to make some changes if you have a child, if you still want your life to be unchanged re income , you are not ready to have children, they are not an accessory to your life and much more expensive than a new car or a holiday abroad.
ganesh, i dont have to work but i dont see why i not giving up work means Im any less of a mother than any other who gives up work as she can afford it.
i think 4getmenot has thought correctly about this. She could quite have easily left school at 16, had a kid and never had a job in her life but taken every benefit going to support her
i think 4getmenot has thought correctly about this. She could quite have easily left school at 16, had a kid and never had a job in her life but taken every benefit going to support her
You obviously didn't read my post. That's exactly what I said,some people aren't as lucky as me and I wouldn't dream of criticising those who have to work!!!!!! and
4getmenot I was just 'quoting' you but changing it to emphasize the 'time' point. (no offence intended)
I also think crete made a good point!
4getmenot I was just 'quoting' you but changing it to emphasize the 'time' point. (no offence intended)
I also think crete made a good point!
There's a difference between NEEDING to work to pay the bills etc etc and wanting more money for a nicer lifestyle, holidays, big house, anything the kids want, nice car, clothes, that sort of thing. That is a choice! No amount of playstations or the latest gadgets can replace a parent being there for their kids.
My boss and her husband are lifestyle driven , like to keep up with the Jonses,and they over compensate with gifts for the kids. I find it all quite sad. I bet they would rather have an afternoon with Mum and Dad and more cuddles than any amount of rubbish they buy them to ease their conscience!
My boss and her husband are lifestyle driven , like to keep up with the Jonses,and they over compensate with gifts for the kids. I find it all quite sad. I bet they would rather have an afternoon with Mum and Dad and more cuddles than any amount of rubbish they buy them to ease their conscience!