Would You Tell Them Part 2

[welshfox]

Well, I think tonights the night guys, fingers crossed - I've made sure for the past week that we get to go out tonight, just so I can pluck up the courage to ask him, but I think it's going to be a bit weird as it looks like its just me and him so far. I might have already blown my chance though as he rang late last night saying he was out on the town, and wanted me there for company. I'd had a bad day and was really knackered so said no (with regret) but he rang for ages afterward asking again and again for me to go for a drink. bearing in mind, our local hotspot is a hive of chav anti social activity, and girls either crying or being sick after drinking too much maddog, I cant say I was really tempted to tell him there anyway !
Anyway, he's said its my choice what we do tonight, but I want us to both be suitably alcoholed up, so if he rejects me, I can blame my words on the booze, and hope he'll have forgotten it by the morning - I'm so tragic! Im so torn on what to do though- dont really want to be in a club trying to shout "I LOVE YOU" over the latest tinnitus inducing song, but dont want to make it obvious by going somewhere even remotely romantic, or he might suss it and run a mile. Also, what do I wear? For all you who have no idea what Im on about, see my previous post....help please, and wish me luck!!http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/R elationships-and-Dating/Question379401.html

[warpig3]

ha, ha, what you waiting for honey, go get your man! Have read previous post and there seems to be something there, Personally, I have let very fine men slip through my fingers (no rude remarks please) because I didnt do anything, too scared. It seems all the signs are there,and if you dont go for it you may end up wondering what if!!

Perhaps because he is your ex's mate he feels disloyal, sod that!

You go girl, just dont get too p*ssed and dont lay all you cards on the table too soon, - softly, softly, catchy monkey - and all that!

Best of luck.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

warpig

XX

[welshfox]

Thanks warpig - im getting more and more nervous by the minute. gonna have a nice bath and glass of wine now before I get ready in the hope that I'll calm down a bit. Am not gonna go wild when I tell him, just drop it into the conversation I think. I really hope I dont mess up by being too nervous, just dont want to lose him either, in anyway - Emotions can be sooooo annoying!!!!! Thanks again hun - fingers crossed eh? x

[Mammar]

Aha! Been watching out for you. I'm still here waiting to hear what happened.
Am hoping it all went so well that you won't have time to post back to us cos he won't let you out of his sight!
Make an old lady happy and 'fess up eventually.
x x

[welshfox]

Well....After quite a bit of flirting with each other,aswell as a bit of alcohol,he pulled me to one side from the group - there more of us out - and asked me how I veiw our relationship.I just sort of laughed but asked him what he meant and why.Apparently,one of our mutual friends had asked him about our relationship last week,as it looks as if we're seeing each other in secret :-o

He then got called away-to my annoyance-but it gave me a chance to speak to the 'mutual friend'.Apparently, the conversation in the week was about the fact that my love object feels the same way about me as I do about him (yay!), but he would never do anything about it due to his loyalty to my ex and their friendship (boo)-I hate my ex even more now! ;-) Anyway,it was also said that if I had never been with my ex, he hoped that we would have been in a relationship a long time ago. I would normally dismiss 3rd party evidence ;-) but I know that our mutual friend is the only one my love object confides in about all his dilemmas.

Its a dilemma but it didnt stop either of us flirting with each other for the rest of the night *smirk* At one point, my love object told me "He'd marry a girl for less" after I saved his white shirt from getting ruined by spillages! Plus, he went to kiss me in the taxi on the way home, and then stopped himself as he seemed to realise that there wasnt just the 2 of us in the car - NIGHTMARE!!!
I did get a hug though so it wasnt all bad.

All in all I'm quite happy at the moment - at least Im no longer wondering how he feels about me, but Im not giving in just yet. Just need to make him see that he cant let a pact made in school,possibly ruin a chance of a great relationship with me. Im sure my ex would jump on my love objects ex mrs without a 2nd thought! maybe I need to make it happen???lol

So there we are for now guys.Thanks to you all for your advice and kind wishes.I'll keep you updated of any

[welshfox]

....developments or changes. Thanks again guys - you really are great xxx

[warpig3]

hi babe, but seems like writing is on the wall, am not relationship expert. but when its good, its good!

[Mammar]

Well there's a bit of improvement then!
So pleased to hear that.
I suggest that next time he calls on you "cos he's in the district" and you've got him on his own you sit him down and tell him how short life is and how it's daft not to go for the things you really want.
Then fling yourself on him and - no, not really. Just getting carried away there.
You're doin' ok, girlfriend. (Sorry, that's not like me either - must be the wine talking)
There might only be me and warpig following this but you have to let us know what develops.
Nite nite x x

[warpig3]

Hi welshfox, have been away for a while, any more developments???? Had to laugh at mammar's comment, yes it would seem that we a living our lives vicariously through yours!!!!!!

cheers
warpig

[welshfox]

Hi, Warpig - Thanks for checking up on me - lol.Things are moving on slowly but in strange ways! We spent most of Saturday together, then went for a meal down the coast- just the 2 of us, and he even let me drive his precious car!!!! Had a really nice relaxed night though - was tempted to pull over in a wuiet lane and ravish him though!!!
He's having a bit of a rough time at the mo, so all I can be is his friend right now - I daren't give him even more stress!I'm determined that the next time I've had a drink for dutch courage though, I'm just going to grab hold of him and kiss him, and see if he responds. I think blaming it on the alcohol is the best way forward incase I make a fool of myself!!! Things are progressing though which I am happy about - Just need to make him realise that the past with my ex should have no say in the future. Bl00dy men eh?? Hows things with you? Hope theres enough romantic dilemmas on here to keep you and mammar busy for the moment!!
Thanks for your interest - I need to talk about it or I'll explode!!!
Take care and I'll let you know what develops
xxxx