number of partners...

[joko]

why do so many guys have an irrational issue with how many guys a girl has slept with?

i watched a film last night and i guy had a huge issue about his 30-odd year old girlfriend having had 13 guys!
I mean, if you break this down to average years of sexual activity it amounts to under 1 a year!!
ONE a YEAR!!
why is there a blind connection to the number rather than in relation to age?

why does this even matter?
why do guys think they have a right to be bothered by this?

even if the girl has only been with 2 guys in 15 years, you can bet she has had loads and load of sex, in many positions, places, etc etc ... after all, people experiment more with a long term partner, and they are more likely to be a bit kinky or use toys, porn, other couples etc etc when with a long term partner - so why would a bloke would care more about amount of guys than amount of sex...?

she is also more likely to have been emotionally involved with the guys she was with for long term, so surely that should be of more concern to a guy, than a temporary physical activity?

any guys enlighten me ?

[Roy262]

For a mans point of veiw i wouldnt like my daughter to have had loads of different partners.
Ask your partner this question and he will agree with me

[grumpii]

I wouldnt want my mum to have a bad reputation either. (wh0re was edited.)

[Roy262]

You say how old fashioned me and grumpii are well ive never slept and not going to sleep with a bloke.
So because times have changed im old fashioned i dont think so.

[joko]

so a 30 year old woman averaging 10, assuming she started around 16, that makes about 1 or 2 a year - and you think any more is excessive?

what you want for your daughter is not up to you.

roy, i know what the consensus is - it not about agreeing or not - i want to know why its an issue, why it ever became one - all you have said so far is that you wouldn't like it, because you would know the other guys - thats a bit of a lame and controlling reason.

why do guys see women as property and view a woman in this way instead of who she is?
this is 2007, and women are a lot more sexually open now, why still do many men have a problem with it?

i understand your point grumpii - if she behaves badly - t1ts properly out, all over everyone, different bloke every night, i understand a man being put off - but look at the statistics, look at the figures i listed!

a woman of, say 35, had 30 partners - you may think it sounds a lot but assuming she started at 16, that make 20 years - thats just 1 or 2 a year!!!

hardly a skank whorre with a different bloke every night is it?

but you would consider 30 a lot, wouldn't you?

[grumpii]

If she was decent, it wouldnt bother me. (as long as ther wernt photos on the wall)

[joko]

oh come on ray - being gay is not relevant here, i am not suggesting you do something you don't want, just becaise others do it. what a bizarre thing to say...!

being gay is not an attitude.

this matter is just attitude - there is no reason why women shouldn't be able to have as much sex as they like.

the only reason most women don't have sex with loads of men is not because they don't want to - its the fear of men like you labelling them and 'getting a reputation'
believe me, women want sex as much as men and its onloy society that makes it out to be innapropriate.

it is the reason why so many guys can't get laid - the girls afraid of being labelled and treated like crap.

you guys shot yourself in the foot with that one, lol!

[grumpii]

I didnt agree with ray about gay, I havnt ruled it out yet, (I am such a sl*t)

[Roy262]

Anyway joko im off to pub in a mo wanna talk about it there?
And if your nice you might get lucky lol

[joko]

ooh i thought you'd never ask - the lengths a girls gotta go to 'eh?

[Roy262]

Are you a pint girl ?
I dont want you drinking me under the table.

Oh im getting old fashioned again lol

I need to ask a question though how many men/women have you slept with?

[joko]

ooh hundreds!
lets see, 1 a week for about 20 years is about 1,040.

they were all rubbish.


just kidding

some were good



just kidding, ...about 20 -ish...i am 34.

[joko]

i would just add that there have been many many more i would have liked to have, but felt they would have told everyone, turned it into something sleazy or turned nasty afterwards so refused... their loss... silly boys, tut

[ludwig]

It's just the way we are joko. there's no particular logic to it, just like there's no logic to why women like 'bad boys', Barry Manilow, or are obsessed by shoes.
It's just programmed into our genes. Vive la difference.

[joko]

maybe you're right ludwig, and normally i would agree with vive la difference, but it is as very negative and repressive thing towards women, and implies men have control over women

[grumpii]

I like easy women, now I am seperated, just cant find any!!!!!!!!

[Roy262]

I guess you dont live near me then.
There out with there wife/husbands one night then all over a different bloke/women another night when he/she is at home.
And this is in the same pub.
There very freindly around my area to freindly

[ludwig]

I don't agree J. It just works the other way round for women, ie men who've had loads of women are seen as a bit more fanciable - they know their around the sack, which buttons to push etc, whereas the forty year old bloke who's only had sex once is seen as a bit of a wimp, weirdo, effeminate, whatever.
I'm not saying that's women being negative and oppressive to men though - it's just the way it is.
There's probably some deep rooted evolutionary/darwinian reason behind it all.

[Roy262]

Here's a photo of me and my mates hanging out joko

http://www.anyfun.net/show.phtml?type=pics&nam e=oops&num=2

[joko]

maybe if women were more free to be sexual in their youth, they wouldn't feel starved and as though they have missed out, and the need to stray later on...

[Roy262]

Just noticed im not on the photo i must be behind the camara
This one is of me

http://www.grimmemennesker.dk/ugly-people-449. htm