ChatterBank1 min ago
Is it cheating?
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Hey all...going through a bit of a rough time at the mo' so please go easy on me. Just yesterday discovered that my (ex)boyfriend has been chatting to girls over the internet, very local girls aswell! He claims it was a bit of fun and would have NEVER gone any further! After he left I managed to log onto the site after guessing his password just to discover he had about six different girls lined up and was sending dirty messages to them! I immediately ended things and told him how disgusted I was, what upset me the most is that he marked 'single' as his relationship status! He has apologised to me several times and said he is very ashamed of himself, but I cant seem to get it out my head! We are both only 22, there has been no warning signs and have been in a happy relationship for 2 and a half years! Would anyone else class this as cheating or being unfaithful! Any opinions will do, plus has anyone gone though the same? Thanks Think_Sweet xx
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This depends on the person. If you are quite open about things like that and are both quite happy with the situatioon, then it is not cheating.
If he was deliberately hiding information because he knew how you would react then regardless of whether or not it is cheating, it means he knew his behaviour was wrong.
Only you can decide whether he is likely to learn from his mistake or whether he would see your forgiveness as an opportunity to do it again.
If he was deliberately hiding information because he knew how you would react then regardless of whether or not it is cheating, it means he knew his behaviour was wrong.
Only you can decide whether he is likely to learn from his mistake or whether he would see your forgiveness as an opportunity to do it again.
Yes, Mr K, I flirt. Sometimes outrageously!
I don't flirt with men who live down the road from me though as I wouldn't want to humiliate my husband.
Flirting is harmless. No, I don't tell my husband all conversations I have on the internet but at the same time I would never rub his nose in it.
Like I say, it depends what you consider to be alright. Personally, I'm not particularly jealous and I could never say anything to my husband if he flirted on here. 'Pot' and 'Kettle' springs to mind.
I don't flirt with men who live down the road from me though as I wouldn't want to humiliate my husband.
Flirting is harmless. No, I don't tell my husband all conversations I have on the internet but at the same time I would never rub his nose in it.
Like I say, it depends what you consider to be alright. Personally, I'm not particularly jealous and I could never say anything to my husband if he flirted on here. 'Pot' and 'Kettle' springs to mind.
A very similar situation recently happened to me, I have been very hurt and am still quite raw so I dont wish to comment too much, all I can say is it is decietful and underhand. He wasnt ashamed of himself while he was doing it, he is only saying it to try and win you back. At your age and marital status I would say get out as quickly as you can, he obviously wants something other than you. good luck and try to look to a brighter future.
Think Sweet....think_sweet.
There is a very good chance that he was just after cyber fun and nothing more. Not that many people take it that step further. Just take a little time out to have a think and sort out how you feel, then go back and have a good long chat with him about what you do and do not find acceptable.
There is a very good chance that he was just after cyber fun and nothing more. Not that many people take it that step further. Just take a little time out to have a think and sort out how you feel, then go back and have a good long chat with him about what you do and do not find acceptable.
