Really upset....

[peppy]

I lost my Mum in January, and am finding it so hard to deal with. It seems to have changed who I am totally, but I am trying so hard not to put it my grief on Mr.P, then all of a sudden I explode. Any help would be appreciated x x

[peppy]

The word ' it ' crept in there uninvited x x

[ummmm]

You have to live through it peppy. If that's the way you deal with it then so be it. I'm sure Mr P will understand.

I haven't lost a parent but I have lost 2 Aunts in very unfortunate circumstances. We all deal with it in our own ways and I really believe that this is the time when you should let it out as it comes and not worry about anyone else.

Be how you feel.......people will (should) understand

[society]

Peppy I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your mum, sincere sympathies and big hugs to you. As long as you are thinking of your mum she is there with you. These things happen and we cannot control death when the time has come. It's natural to cry and grieve and missed loved ones when they are gone.

Sounds like you had a lovely mum whom you shared many good times with. Just focus on the good times you all had together and know she is with you all the time. She is looking at you and saying "don't grieve and cry Peppy, I'm here with you" So chin up and know you are loved and your mum is right there with you. ((((((big hugs))))))

xx

[peppy]

That's so lovely society, I'm roaring me head off now ( roaring is a Derbyshire expression for crying btw )
Thankyou x x

[red~bez]

Hello peppy...

So sorry to hear of your loss. I'm sure Mr P understands...these explosions are all part of the grieving process..it's early days yet hun.

Take care XXX

[Trinny]

peppy, I really wish I could offer you some help. society said it all really. But I am so sorry to hear that you lost your mum. Sorry I couldnt be of any help. But my thoughts are with you xx

[peppy]

There really are some lovely people on here, as you have just proved. Thankyou, feeling a bit lost and desperate at the moment, but you really have helped x x

[Trinny]

wish I could give you a big hug peppy xx

[ELVIS68]

This site can be fun at times, ok theres some nasty arguments but you get used to them, but most of the time its quite a friendly site

btw I`m sh!t at giving advice!

[red~bez]

Me too Trinny......x........ peppy you will always have us lot here for you.... XXX

[ummmm]

It passes peppy....that's all I can say. One of my aunts committed suicide and the other had a motor bike accident. I love them both so much........it was 10 years ago now (for both)

I felt so empty for so long......then you realise one day that it doesn't hurt so much.

It's still early days for you.....cry....scream and shout. Do whatever make YOU feel better.

Grief is personal.........as long as you tell them how you feel, deal with it in your own way.

God bless you xx

[peppy]

You made me smile through my tears Elvis, that's an achievement in its self !

[peppy]

red and ummmm,was typing my reply to Elvis when yours came through. So meaningful, thankyou both x x

[ELVIS68]

Good for you peppy...smiling and laughter is the best medicine in the world...and it`s free!

[ummmm]

No worries peppy xx

[raysparx1]

Hi peppy, So sorry to hear about your sad loss,what you are going through is perfectly normal, and mr peppy will not mind you blowing a gasket, I have lost both my parents,so I can understand exactly how you feel it is as if your whole world has collapsed, after all somebody that has been with you your whole life has gone, we also feel vunerable and mortal, if you want to cry peppy cry,never bottle it up,
Your life will never be quite the same without your lovely mum,but she will want you to be happy, and you will be,but not overnight,
I am not religious but I do pop into a little church and light a candle for my parents,I sit there,just thinking of the lovely times we had, and thanking them for being my parents, i often sit there crying and my mum went nearly 4 years ago, you will get there peppy, but the road is a bit bumpy,this first year is the hardest,after that a lot of the memories bring smiles not tears, thinking of you,take care peppy and don't forget let mr peppy kop it, he won't mind. xx

[bigmamma]

Peppy honey , my heart goes out to you . I too lost my dear mum , as I said before.
You will get all the emotions love and no good either fighting them or apologising for them , it's all part of the sad grieving process and Mr p and others around you will understand and hopefully support you .Let your feelings free and hold onto thoughts of good times you had with your mum and you will never forget that smile and special bond.
Bless and take care xx :-)

[eyeshade]

Rspx is right, it will take a long while to get over losing mum. My mum died over 12 years ago and it used to be every hour I thought of her but as time goes by, things take over and although you don't think it now, you will get over the sudden loss of losing her, which is the worse thing. I have a lovely photo of mum and I talk to her all the time and chat to her about the good and bad things that happen and always feel better afterwards. The amount of family and animals that I have lost over the years, I can tell you from experience, the hurt and loss will ease and fond memories will take over. Talk to Mr P and tell him how you feel, I am sure he will be just a great support for you in the coming months. X

[Pippa68]

Hey peppy...the other have said it all, but wanted to add that I agree it is all perfectly normal for you to explode. It IS early days, and to be honest your grief may not totally go away..but it will lessen as time goes on.

Feeling guilt because you feel this way makes it all worse. You have suffered a bereavement...your mum at that, the one who nurtured you..you are bound to feel the strongest pain imaginable.

Big hugs to you, peppy...it will get easier, and I am sure Mr P understands why you are doing this. Take each day as it comes, hun x