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Hi everyone, with regards to my post that some of you may remember I was trying to track my birth father. I THINK I may have his address, but im not too sure.. I cant get a telephone number which I would of prefered, any advice on what I could do next?? Write a letter?? if so what do I say??!! Its all so stressful!!
Any adice would be much appreciated.
Thanks xx
Any adice would be much appreciated.
Thanks xx
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.My mam had me at 18, was with him for a few year, think i can remember him being around when i was 3. And then dont know much after that, just that they split up, i didnt see him again after the age of three 25 now. my mam met someone else who i call dad and they changed my name by depoll and my dad adopted me. thats about it really!!
Just keep the letter as formal, straight to the point and non-intrusive, you dont need to include the whole story here, you are just putting out some 'feelers' as you only 'think' you have the correct address.
You could try :-
Dear sir/madam,
Forgive the intrusiveness of this letter but I am presently creating a family tree from scratch and would be most grateful of any advice you could pass on - I am trying to trace XXXXXXX - if I have the incorrect information then please accept my sincere apologies for having contacted you.
Bests
XXXXX
You could try :-
Dear sir/madam,
Forgive the intrusiveness of this letter but I am presently creating a family tree from scratch and would be most grateful of any advice you could pass on - I am trying to trace XXXXXXX - if I have the incorrect information then please accept my sincere apologies for having contacted you.
Bests
XXXXX
Good idea roughquest but if I got that then got in touch thinking it was for a family tree then found out it was my daughter I'd be quite upset that they lied. Just put your story and who you trying to find I'm sure if it is your dads address and he wants to know he will get in contact, if it isnt then I'm sure no person would be annoyed at getting that letter and would even be kind enough to let you know or help you with any forwarding addresses.
just tell the truth - he will know what you are doing when he gets the letter, and showing some emotion will help him with that initial connection.
just say you have been searching for him and you are hoping this is the right lead. and if you are wrong could he help you with any information.
if you are formal and even a bit stern and make up a story, he may steer clear thinking he's in for a hard time - that you just want to know who he is and nothing more.
handwritten is better.
just say you have been searching for him and you are hoping this is the right lead. and if you are wrong could he help you with any information.
if you are formal and even a bit stern and make up a story, he may steer clear thinking he's in for a hard time - that you just want to know who he is and nothing more.
handwritten is better.
Yeah I agree with Roughquest + joko,
an added bonus is that a letter will give him the opportunity to tell his family that they have a new sister (I assume you are female) if he hasn't already told them. If you phone him and his wife/partner answers you will have the devils own job trying to explain to her why a young lady is calling her home and asking to speak to her husband
an added bonus is that a letter will give him the opportunity to tell his family that they have a new sister (I assume you are female) if he hasn't already told them. If you phone him and his wife/partner answers you will have the devils own job trying to explain to her why a young lady is calling her home and asking to speak to her husband
Definitely hand written Mis1 - please just swallow your nerves and go for it, you have nothing to lose at all but a hell of a lot to gain I think, its all so exciting but if it turns out to be a dud, then please dont get disheartened, your birth father is out there - oh and please do let us all know how things are going....
Best of luck, it takes some guts to do what you are doing girl !
RQ xx
Best of luck, it takes some guts to do what you are doing girl !
RQ xx