Childfree zone!!

[cazzz1975]

My sisters friend (35) recently announced to us that she is proud to be child free, she added that she would never have children and felt that most parents were bonkers!

There has been a real down turn in births and most people I talk too have no plans to pop any kids out at all (most are in late 30's)

Im thinking this is the new black?, do people on here feel like this??

[smudge]

That's a coincidence, I've just replied to Joe's thread, on similar lines - last page:

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Q uestion416085-3.html

[laurence2]

Personally, i think its quite selfish of people not to have children, thats providing everything is ok medically

But people are entitled to choose what they want in life, it does seem that this is the ''new black'' tho

[wiggal]

I wouldnt say I dont want kids, but in my life my pets come first mad as most think i am! And if having kids means that I would have to rehome my animals, then i wouldnt have any.
But then I should imagine that will change in years to come as i am only 20!

[smudge]

Why is it ' quite selfish' laurence?

Although our Granddaughter says she doesn't want children (altho' she adores her little cousins & may change her mind later), we wouldn't dream of making her feel 'guilty' for not having them.

I don't think it's the 'new black' at all - I know a few women, some of whom worked for me, who simply didn't want children. It wasn't a trendy thing - they just didn't want them.

As you say, each to their own.

[laurence2]

smudge,

I did'nt imply making someone feel guilty, i appreciate that some people don't have parental instincts, but these same people who don't want children forget that they were one once.

I think the pressure's {financially} ie big morgage payments etc put a number of people of having children now, we live effectively in a 24/7 society and some people prefer the social life style

As i pointed out, everyone is entitled to what way they want to pursue life, just one thing tho,are the people who don't want children willing to babysit etc as well to help out family or friends.

Just a queory

[littleone85]

i just think that maybe rather than not wanting kids most people just have other things as more of a priority, career etc. As for myself, both me and my partner want children but we'd rather save for getting married and a buying a house first (and we all know what a nightmare buying your first home is!) so its probably quite likely that we'll be in our thirties before we get round to kids but its still something we both want.

[smudge]

As I said laurence - I know women who don't want &/or have never had children, even tho' they enjoy other people's.

Also, just because they were babies/children themselves once, shouldn't automatically make them want to have children of their own.

I'm so glad we have two wonderful daughters & four wonderful grandchildren & would hate to think that some women might be losing out - but if you put that to them, they'd say otherwise.

Have a lovely evening. ;o}

[alijangra]

I used to feel that way, but a series of events in my life have made me change my mind. I plan to start trying within next 2 years.

[Ethel]

I think that wanting children can be very selfish, and egotistical.

But as long as children are born to those who want them, then it doesn't matter than some people don't want them.

It's when children are born to those who don't want them that is sad.

[amonty1144]

I was one of those who didn't want childen, right up to the point that i became ill and they thought i could'nt have children.
I'm now a very proud parent of a gorgeous 5 year old boy. We are also looking at adoption for another child.
Parenting is hard but very rewarding.
Some of my friends are childless and they can't see why we do what we do, whilst they jet off on numerous holidays. I know i wouldn't swap but it everyone's choice, kids or no kids.
I would never judge anyone for that decision, but don't expect my lounge to be tidy. lol