There is no GOD!

[muchlovex]

If there was a god he wouldn't let my mum suffer they way she is. She has battled cancer for nearly 2 years and it is spreading. She has to deal with that, the chemo and she can't walk anymore due to major complications with Thrombosis in both her legs.

If there was a god, he would not allow all of this suffering for my lovelly mum.

[Baby Jane]

muchlovex

Hello darlin,Im so sorry to hear about your mum,mine is going through the same think and my heart goes out to you. I have asked the same question too,yet my mum puts her faith in the Lord and thanks him every day. What do you do? When my dearest dad passed away the ugly evil cancer growth on the front of his throat vanished in minutes, our vicar said "God has taken it from him" so I asked "why did He give to him in the first place". My darling mum said I must believe but I am angry at her suffering. Wish I could help you. I still pray for her tho every night.

Take care and I wish you strength and your dear mum to be well again.
xxx

[Romeo]

We don't live in heaven, we live in an imperfect universe. Life is full of challenges to find a meaning. If someone dies in the end, God will take care of them afterwards. Meanwhile, in this life, we have to face the challenges.

But that is only my personal opinion. If you want more, talk to the hospital chaplain.

Good on your mum for keeping her faith. Bless her. I send my prayers.

[tradey]

firstly can i send you all my love,i lost my dad 11yrs ago at the age of 46,he had cancer,had the chemo which made him feel more ill,all i can say is i feel just the same as you, along time ago i used to think there was a god,but hes took too many off my loved ones,at early ages,so as far as im concerned there is no god,i just cant cant believe there is one anymore,people have said to me he doesnt want the bad ones up there so thats why he takes the good,yep ok but why,what have they done to anyone nothing.i hope your mum gets better keep your chin up as if your low she will be too xxx

[raysparx1]

Hello muchlove, So sorry to hear things have got worse for your mum, I can understand why you feel the way you do, it should not happen, and it makes you question what the hell is going on, there are no wise words I can say to you that will take your pain away, infact nothing I can say will make you feel one bit better,give your mum my love and please mail me if you want to, take care and hope to hear from you when you get the time, me and a lot of others on here are there if you want to talk, Ray xx

[bigmamma]

Dear muchlovex , the first time I asked that same question was years ago when , at aged 16 , my father lay at home in the last stages of cancer and in great pain. I looked up to the sky and pleaded with the God who had seemingly turned his back on us. My faith has been tested times again since then and when my mother passed away recently it was her strong faith that calmed her as she slipped from this cruel world.
My heart goes out to you in your time of great need love .
It is at this time I hope that you might draw some strenghth
from somewhere to get you through each day . xx

[stokeace]

so sorry to hear of your pain.......bless you all xx

[Romeo]

I stand by my words, babyjane. Take heart from them, or listen to the miserable creatures who have answered your site. What is there for them in the afterlife? Listen to me, and seek out the hospital chaplain. Do you really want to think there is no God, no afterlife, no meaning to life?

Hang in there. Don't turn to drink or drugs.

[Doc Spock]

Sorry to hear that muchlovex. I absolutely agree with you.
We are not miserable creatures romeo just concerned members of the same species. I say that because we are the only living organisms on this planet with the capability of logical and inventive thought processes.You may say dolphins are intelligent, but they have'nt gone to the moon or invented stuff to breathe out of water. The only meaning to life is that there is no meaning. It just happens.It really is that simple.

[Baby Jane]

Romeo

Sweetheart , I want to believe but it is hard, just as it is for muchlovex. Why does He let such cruel things happen?
people we love suffer. I wil try to understand,thank you for caring on mine and muchlovex's behalf.

[Baby Jane]

Forgot to say,the strange thing is, I sign off letters by saying "God Bless You"
Bigmamma, hello my friend, tonight I will say my prayers for muchlovex, Nat84 and my mum and all the peole who suffer, may be I do have faith after all.

[smudge]

I'm so sorry to hear about your dear Mum muchlove.

I can't add much more than the other's have said, except take stength knowing other's really do care.

Arms around you & your Mum. -xx-

[unruliejulie]

Hi muchlovex,

i am so very very sorry that things have taken a turn for the worse.

Unfortunately, life throws some very tough things at us and we have to learn how to cope throughout all the hard times . Life is never very fair im afraid, and you and your poor mum and all the other sufferers of this terrrible illness must feel that more then most.

I lost my Dad very suddenly 21 years ago when i was 17 and also felt how you are feeling about there being no God if he could make us go through this sort of pain.

Our lives take the paths they do and we can do nothing to change that. All we can do is be there and be strong for our loved ones and those who matter the most in our world.

You have my heart felt best wishes as always XXX

[Lez]

I`m afraid I feel exactly the same as muchlove.Sometimes I feel I hate the world and if there is a God,When I meet him I will slap him for what he`s put my family through.We`ve lost four children,My Mum and my sister.It was my Dad who held things together,then two years ago he took him too.

[society]

Reading this thread made me cry. I am so lost for words. I am so sorry to hear about all these sad happenings to everyone. I wish you all love, peace and light and my prayers and blessings too.

xxx

[rom]

im so sorry to hear about this muchlove. my heart goes out to you. i have thought the same as you many times in the last 10 years, i live in a town where evil came one day and on that day my thoughts on god changed alot. take care xxx

[tigwig]

Hi muchlovex I am so sorry for what you are going through especially as I am going through it too with my mum in law. A small 'nodule' was spotted on the side of her lung over 2 years ago and she was advised to have regular scans etc which she did and she was always told there was no change and nothing to worry about. 6 months ago she was in considerable pain and went to see her GP on 3 different occasions he told her it was just her arthritis (she suffers badly with rheumatoid ). Back in March the pain was so bad she ended up in hospital where she was told it was lung cancer and there was no cure. They admitted full liability but that is no consolation. To make matters worse once she came out of hospital a few days before she started chemo she was rushed to A&E with agonising stomach pains the doctors just gave her laxitives and said it was constipation. A few days later after having another scan it was revealed that she really had a perforated bowel and was told she wouldn't survive the surgery but she did. the cancer has spread throughout her body like your mums and as she has a big gaping wound that won't heal due to years of steroids because of her arthritis she cannot have any treatment for the cancer. At present she is in a hospice slowly dying in front of our eyes her organs are shutting down and she is just layed looking like she is already dead at the age of 57.
Sorry to go on but you have opened the floodgates for me once again I really sympathise and if I can be of any support I will as I know what you are going through.
PS I often think that there is no God either but you just have to stick together as a family and support each other and keep believing things will get easier eventually

[Carakeel]

Dear muchlovex, my heart goes out to you and to your whole family. I know too well what you are going through. I myself had bone cancer which spread to many other areas of my body. While I was coming to the end of my treatment, my first born son Kevin was diagnosed with brain cancer. We had never had cancer in our family before. For some reason I survived, but my darling son died in my arms just three days before his 21st birthday. So yes, I have asked myself the same questions as you are right now. I respect the beliefs of those who do still have a strong faith in God, but although brought up by catholic nuns and having a cousin who is a bishop, I struggle with my own beliefs and have turned away from the church. Have faith in yourself, in your ability to give comfort and to give love to your mother. Simply being there for her and allowing her show how she is feeling, not hiding things inside, will help her. It is good to be strong for your Mum, but also to allow yourselves to cry together when you need to. At the same time though, remember to find the positive in each day too and laugh with her. These are the things that will help her get through all this. There are more people who survive cancer than the press lead us to believe, so please never give up on your Mum. She needs you to believe in her. A big hug of strength to you and your family and the same to all who are going through this dreadful situation right now. XXX :o) If you feel like a chat on msn, I'm at [email protected].

[missrandom]

I dont believe in god, these terrible things just happen, as awful as that is, I really feel for you and a big hug to you both.xx
I dont know how you manage to keep going CARAKEEL and LEZ, how in the world do you cope when your babies are taken from you so young? Just the tought is making me cry? I try to remind myself as often as i can, to make the most of my children, as young as they are, as who knows whats around the corner.

[Aschenbach]

I agree. Upon hearing of your mother's deteriorating health (and others) I have thought long and hard and decided against the possible existence of any divinity.

Others would say that God is working in mysterious ways or that your mother is now being punished for sins committed in a previous life but not me.

It seems almost obscene that an 111-year-old man is in the news this week insidiously goading those less fortunate than himself.

Heed the messages of support and remember laughter is the best medicine (although obviously chemotherapy should always be given priority over, for example, a comedy show).

I also agree with Romeo's admirable advice not to turn to drink and drugs.

x

Jesus Christ! there's 28 crosses on this page

[raysparx1]

Hello Kath, Hope you are ok, and mum is comfortable, you have had some lovely replies on here,hope it brings a little bit of comfort to you, all you can do now is as we said before, talk to mum, laugh with her, cry with her (or cry when you are away from her) but please don't bottle things up inside, please e-mail me, I would mail you but my computer crashed last week and I lost everything, all e-mail & addresses, so I am having to gradually rebuild them, hope to hear from you soon, take care and give mum a hug and kiss from me, love Ray xx