Situation

[bounceagain]

My partner went out with this girl (now ex) while they were together she received horrible things from this girl. Im living with my partner now. Is it wise to tell my partner not to tell her where we live?! He is still friends with her.

thanks x

[johnlambert]

If he knows about the things she sent to his ex he would not tell this woman that you are cohabiting, is this woman an ex of his as well?

[Octavius]

Why would she need to know where you live?

[bounceagain]

The girl for example sarah, my partner hasnt being romatically involved her sarah at all and never will. Im worried if she knows where we live, she will appear there.

[bounceagain]

I guess so sarah could come to visit or pick up my partner for some reason.

[johnlambert]

If she's mates with your bf chances are she'll appear there anyway, what about his other mutual friends who know this girl sarah? wont they tell her by way of conversation?

[Psychick]

Im sorry, am I missing something here because I really dont understand this question or your concerns.

What exactly are you worried about?

[teag1rl]

not your place to say. if he knows she's a nutter surely he'd have distanced himself from her by now and would want to protect you as his grilfriend. The ex might have caused the prob though and that is why she is ex. You need to ask him what happened-has this other girl got feelings for him? if he's not willing to talk about this then that in itself should speak volumes

[bounceagain]

The girl sarah, has been nasty towards my partner's ex. Trying not going into alot of detail, but very nasty things like thre ats.

[Panic Button]

I'm lost

[Octavius]

Yes, I'm a bit lost.

[johnlambert]

I agree 100% with teag1rl,

[bounceagain]

Yeah sarah likes him alot, in a strange way Ive been told. Im worried. My partner has told me hes not over keen spending time with her. He has no feelings for her at all, hes told her this very clearly to her.

[johnlambert]

So she's a bunny boiler then?

[bounceagain]

Hehe whats a bunny boiler?

[teag1rl]

From what you've said bounceagain, you need to sit down and speak with him about this. I'd be concerned in your shoes-but how come you know so much about what she sent to the ex? Are you best mates with the ex or something? Otherwise, I'm assuming you know all about past history from the boyf in which case it sounds as though he';s being very open and honest and would have no reason to want her to know where he lives anyway.

[bounceagain]

I dont know the ex at all. Ive only seen this sarah a few times. I have been told by a family member of my partner that this sarah is odd and made thre a ts to my partners ex.

[Octavius]

Oh I see, so this girl (Sarah) was a friend of your partners� ex. And she was a strange �un and although you don�t mind your partner staying on contact with the ex, you don�t want the other one (Sarah the Strange) to know where you live.

Err, I agree with teagirl too. I still don�t understand why she would need to know but she would probably find out from ex anyway.

[dot.hawkes]

Dueling banjos link anyone?

[bounceagain]

Sorry Im not being clear. This sarah doesnt get on with my partner's ex for example Abby. Ive never met Abby and only seen sarah a few times.
Im not worried if Abby knows where we live. Im just worried that sarah (the nutter) will find out. As not alot of people dont like sarah, the only way sarah will know where we live if my partner says. :) x