help.

[muchlovex]

I asked this question in the How it Works sections however, I need a reply quickly....thank you again and sorry for posting twice.

I have recieved many sympathey cards from friends and colleagues for the passing of my mum. What is the normal etiquette for this, do I thank them for their cards?

Also, when someone is to say 'I am sorry about your mum'.. what do I say?

Thank you

[4getmenot]

if you mean then sending them a card thanking them for their card it could go on forever, so no. If you happen to talk to them just say thank you you card was lovely or that it meant alot. And if they say sorry about your mum just say thankyou too.

[muchlovex]

Hi,
I was thinking of emailing them as they are work colleagues.

[4getmenot]

No I wouldnt I'm sure they know from the kind of person you are that you appreciate it.

[4getmenot]

and if you speak to them just say thanks in passing. xx

[muchlovex]

ah, thank you. I will take your advice.

xx

[4getmenot]

Hope you're dealing ok with all lately. xx

[muchlovex]

Well, ups and downs really.

Sometimes i just cry and cry and i really want to see my mum, but i know i can't.

Thank you for asking.

Take care.
Luv
muchlovex

[4getmenot]

xxxxxx (((((((((( Hug ))))))))))))))

[rasmus]

We always put a notice in our local paper thanking people for their kind words/cards/flowers/support,whatever you feel you want to say.

[tradey]

when i lost my dad all i did was got a thankyou card for my work i just put thanks for all the lovely cards.i hope your doing alright youll get there in time xx

[pussnboots]

When my mum died there were lots of cards from her neighbours, she lived in warden accomodation with 40 flats. So after the funeral I bought one nice card, thanked everyone and pinned it to the notice board in the entrance hall for all to see. Perhaps you could do the same thing at your work place.

[WendyS]

You have to draw the line somewhere, so I reckon that if somebody has taken the trouble to sit down and write a really nice personal condolence letter, that probably merits a hand-written notelet in reply, saying how much their thoughts were appreciated. But I don't think a sympathy card merits quite the same treatment. And if people stop you to say how sorry they were, unless they were close friends and you want to elaborate, I think a gracious "Thank You" is sufficient. Sometimes it's the easiest way of coping, especially if your emotions are running close to the surface at the time.