Misscarraiges

[POLLIANNA]

Sorry to ask but has one else suffered from them? I have just had my fourth and was wondering if there is any light at the end of a very long tunnel.

[sarahww]

Hi, sorry for your loss, I have had 2, one at 5 months and one at six weeks. I then went full term and gave birth, however that is another story! BUT it does prove you can carry to full term after more than one.

[POLLIANNA]

All of mine have been at 6 weeks but your reply makes me feel a bit better. Enjoy your wee one cause they dont see to be wee for long x

[Jules001]

Hi sorry to hear that. I fell pregnant with my son almost at once, had a textbook pregnancy and a very easy birth. I thought that the second time around was going to be just as easy, however I had a miscarriage followed by two more. My GP eventually tried hormone injections which I had to have every week for several months. I eventually became pregnant again and this time carried full term to have a daughter who is now 15. Don't give up trying, but certainly ask questions about it, to see if there is any underlying reason. Good luck and I wish you all the best

[bigmamma]

There is light at the end of the tunnel POLLIANNA , don't give up hope yet love :-)

[POLLIANNA]

The docs aren't very helpful. Cause we can get pregnant they don't think that there is a problem. But when it keeps happening it gets you down. Fed up of congatulating everyone else at the mo.

[pussnboots]

Not had any miscarriages myself but I had a still birth at full term...awful awful time. However I once worked with a man whos wife had 5 miscarriages on the run. She has now got two very healthy little boys. Keep your chin up and keep on trying. xxx

[raysparx1]

Can't help you with your problem POLLIANNA, but just wanted to wish you good luck, never give up hope, it is annoying when some people really want to have children and others have them and don't look after them, Ray

[POLLIANNA]

Pussnboots, i dont know how you coped with your still birth cause i am in pieces with this latest , what the docs call ' one of those things' or the latest one is ' it's just a blip' keep going till you get it right. xx

[rom]

hello, its never happened to me, but i just wanted to say to think positive, there are so many stories i hear where people come thru these things and it works out well. think positive xx

[leelapops]

pollianna, I bet it doesn't feel like "just a blip" when you've prepared to have your life changed by a wonderful new addition to the family. You poor thing. I don't know much about pregnancy/birth/miscarriages, having never been pregnant, but a friend had 5 miscarriages consecutively then went on to have a lovely healthy boy, now 3, and she is pregnant again, quite far gone touch wood.
I wish you lots of luck and love, and can certainly echo raysparx's comment-it seems so unfair that some people would give anything to have children, whereas others use abortion as a contraceptive option. grrrr. xx

[POLLIANNA]

leelapops, thanks and i send all the best to your friend and hope all is well. xx

[nutgoneflake]

I miscarried twice, but only realised after the second one, that I had had another a few months earlier - if that makes sense. I had thought I was pregnant, but didn't do a test so I never knew. The second time, we'd been trying, so it was expected and I did a test early on. When I miscarried, it was awful, but it made me certain that it had happened before. I went on to have two boys, no pregnancy problems at all.

So many people at work shared their stories with me at that time - I had no idea prior to that because noone really talks about it. There was one which may help you - our sales director came down from Head Office, bless him, just to tell me that his wife had miscarried four times, and then had four girls, one after another, with no more problems. Their doctor had toyed with the theory that they maybe couldn't have boys, as the odds of repeating what happened to her would have been so high. A theory though, nothing scientific, but an educated theory!

Don't give up, and don't get stressed either, but I know that's not easy! I want to wish you a healthy, happy full-term pregnancy, because it will happen, I'm sure. Lots of love,

Jo xxx

[unrulyjulie]

You will get there POLLIANNA. don't give up hope !

I had a miscarriage way back in 1990. It wasn't just the end of my pregnancy, it was the end of all my hopes and dreams. However i got pregnant again 3 months later and carried to term, my gorgeous 15 year old son! At the time it happened to me, i never thought i would be happy again but now when i look back, i know if it hadn't happened i wouldn't have the son i have now! I do believe that these things happen for a reason although that reason is very difficult to understand when you are going through this !

I wish you all the very best, keep trying and stay positive, one day you will have that little bundle in your arms! XX

[pussnboots]

Just like to add that after I lost my baby I then went on to have a lovely baby boy who is now as big as a brick sh*t house, he is a loving and caring son with a good job, with a lovely lady, but he will always be so precious.

[Goodsoulette]

Pollianna, you need to ask your doctor to refer you to a gynae doctor, if you have no joy there go to your local family planning clinic and specifically ask to see a doctor. They have gynaecologists on rota 2 or 3 nights a week and they should be able to at least start to help you or tell you exactly what you need to be asking for from your GP.

Your doctor after you third should have referred you for tests. You need to be certain that these things aren't happening for a reason and as they all seem to be happening at 6 weeks I would thought that maybe it was. A very common cause of repeated miscarriage is hughes syndrome which causes sticky blood. Its very treatable too as would be most of the medical reason you may be miscarrying. The reason I know this is I have two cousins who are sisters who both have this, one has had 6 miscarriages (before diagnosed) and now has 2 healthy children and the other sister is now expecting her first child,. Good luck xx

[Goodsoulette]

http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/ma200 6/about/contact.htm

the numbers and the site as a whole might help you.

[POLLIANNA]

Thanks goodsoulette. When i get my head round this one i am going to go back to doc and see what they can do. Don't understand why you have to push for help nowadays but thats what i'm going to do and thanks again for the site link. Think i might give them a phone. xx

[leelapops]

Pollianna, thank you. And the same to you.
Yes it's a shame that the current pervading attitude is that if you want something doing you have to do it yourself, especially when you're already feeling fragile probably.

Sending lots of warm wishes your way x

[yobanfa]

hi pollianna,
ive just had 1 at 8 weeks, and at mo i feel like ****, and i feel so quilty because i lost it, but everyone keeps telling me that it will get better, and i should try again soon, but to tell the truth, at mo i couldnt cope going throught it all again, i just want to cry all the time and that is so not me.