I know this sounds silly...

[Silversky]

(I would like only serious answers only please!)
But I'm going to the doctors on Monday, and I fear I have a sexual-psychological problem called vaginismus.
I'm really nervous about talking to my doctor about this. Anyone got any idea of either how to not be so worried. Or has anyone had this and gone to the doctors?
Thanks =]

[bigmamma]

Hi , I haven't heard of this love but would like to assure you that your doctor will have and that you shouldn't worry about talking to them about it , your doctor is a professional and is there for you . All the best :-)

[Silversky]

Thank you Bigmamma. =]
I've been reading peoples stories, and I think that the idea that a doctor asked her patient 'How on earth her boyfriend had put up with her?' and didn't really have a clue what she was on about un-nerved me somewhat.

[legend758duo]

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/articl e/001487.htm


i dont know ur details.

or should i either.

but talk with doc.

it could just be tension due to nerves .

[Silversky]

But I never feel nervous in anyway, nor have I had any traumatic experiences to lead to such a complication.

[legend758duo]

youre very young still.
dont rush it.

i dont wanna be an armchair doc or talk too direct.

but give it time , relax , it will be ok im sure.




and u know im always right : - )

[mattie]

If your doctor is male, you could request to see a lady doctor.
If my wife has to visit the doctor's for "personal" reasons, then she always asks to see a female.

[alijangra]

You might want to visit your local family planning clinic rather than your own GP, as they are more used to dealing with issues such as this.

[Silversky]

The only problem is my nearest family planning clinic is a good fair way away. And I didn't want my parents to know the reason of why I was going there.

[jinxie]

Firstly, you are in no ways alone with this problem and your doctor should be most sympathetic, but by all means request a female - I am sure they will understand. As you will appreciate, there are various degrees of your problem and although it could be a long time of treatment, most likely the therapy will get results very soon.

Obviously, you will also appreciate that as you give little details of yourself, it is difficult for anyone to give advice from personal experience. As you say that "you fear you have a problem", then that problem could largely be the result of fear of the problem. Whilst in no way condoning under-age sex, we all know it happens. And we also know that many young girls are under pressure to act as their friends do (or as they say they do!), then if this is your case then that very pressure can bring on your condition.

Both Males and Females suffer badly from a fear of not being able to perform - that results in a tenseness - that results in difficulty and so on in a viscious circle.

I only wish I could offer advice applicable to your personal condition.

Anyway, take heart in that you are not alone and the many many other fenales who have initially suffered as you and the numerous men who have had their own version.

[Silversky]

Hi jinxine...
You say about having a fear of the fact I might have a problem.
I was never afraid of sex or being sexually involved with a partner, so when I felt that a problem arose (not having any idea of what it could be) I wanted to get it sorted.
I began researching about the symptoms of different problems, since I'm still a virgin, and so if my partner. I wouldn't have an STI or anything like that.
The thing we both thought first that maybe it was inexperience, but this has been going on for almost 8 months now.
I don't really understand where you are coming from with the under-age sex, as I am over the age limit. And I'm in no way pressured to 'do it'. I want to.

I am going to see a female doctor tomorrow morning, so hopefully it'll shed some light on whats going on.

[enotrapfodne]

I smell fish here.

[Silversky]

Thanks for your absolutely serious, nice, kind reply eno...
Just what we need eh?

[Bird Legs]

I am not surprised that enotrap gave a facetious comment and I begin to question your motive in posting the question.

jinxie gave a perfectly good reply, yet you act as if you were being accused of something. How on earth can guess at your circumstances whenyou could easily have said in the first place.

Although you say you are not under age, I suspect this refers to your physical age as obviously mentally you are a child. IF you are old enough (how old?) to have a regular boyfriend (for how long?), then you are old enough to go along to a family planning clinic whether on not your parents know. In fact it is this fear of your parents knowing what you are doing which is causeing your problem - just as jinxie said in a roundabout way.

If you honestly want some reassurance and helpful advice, you must post all the details.

[Silversky]

Sorry if I came across that way, I quite honestly didn't mean to in anyway. I only wanted reassurance that the doctors would know what I was on about, as I said about someones story on an earlier post.
I'm just trying to answer everything jinxie had asked me.
Im soon to be 17. And I've been with my boyfriend 8 months now, and know him for afew more. He is 21, and we are in a long distance relationship. And if I'm honest and not trying to come across rude. I mentally seem a lot older than 17, I have always seemed older and mixed with adults.

And I don't think my parents would mind if they found out, they'd probably be concerned that I was worried about it. That aside, I'd just rather they didn't know. Afterall there is somethings you don't want your parents to know.
Is there any other information?

[Silversky]

Known** (Pardon my spelling)


And excuse me, sorry, but I also wanted to ask what motive would I have other than the ones than the obvious one of wanted to sort the problem out?
Now I definately feel I'm being accused of something.
And I definitely didn't need enotraps answer, as I've been hurting enough as it is over this. I've actually cried because over it, because I don't wanna be the way I am. And it was exceptionally below the belt, and Im glad it was removed.

[chompu]

Hey! Don't give this girl a difficult time . She has been posting in AB for some time and her answers are invariably sensible and show a maturity beyond her years so I feel her question was a genuine appeal for help.
Having worked in a secondary school for 10 years I know that many girls are embarrassed to let their parents know personal details. I often got asked questions that they said they wouldn't have the nerve to ask their parents.

[Doc Spock]

sorry but it has to be said, sweet 16 tight pu55y.

WOW.

[crossroads]

Now Doc, no need to be sexually explicit. Afterall swearing is permitted on here today.

[Doc Spock]

sorry but this is all too much information.

[Silversky]

Thanks chompu =]
Very kind of you to say. I always get a bit hurt when people don't believe what I'm saying is genuine.
I would never lie on here to wind someone up or make light of an illness.