should i tell him& how???

[milo1978]

Ive just discovered im 6 wks pregnant with somebody i wrk with.

We had one crazy drunken night, he's a lovely fella, we both like each other but im about to go travelling & the times not right for us, we've already discussed it & left it at that.

Everythings gone back to normal which im very relieved about & now this bombshell.

Should i tell him? im not keeping the baby & thats my final descision, does he have to know? I really need advice as i have no idea what the right thing is??

I dont wnat to ruin our relationship, or give him the worst news of his life ect...

[milo1978]

Yeah im hearing you all & i think im going to spare the poor fella the heartache plus we are mates & i dont want to ruin our relationship which it inevitably would.

Y didnt we use protection?? too stupid/ too plastered-he did the good old withdrawal method, you'd never think we're both professional adults.

the weeks thing, the nurse said they estimate from 1st day of your last period-thats 6 wks but yeah this only happened at the start of aug so I dont really get it either but yeah scan will tell.

[clairey-s]

Oh deer, abortion arguments. Anyone else?

[cazzz1975]

you have to expect some people to feel strongly clairey however boring that may seem.

[clairey-s]

Noooo, sorry - I wasn't suggesting this was a boring or irrelevant subject AT ALL. It's just that this poor girl has obviously made up her mind on the subject, and we don't need to upset her any more!
I do feel quite strongly about this too, but she doesn't need to know that today.
x

[cazzz1975]

I thought we were quite easy on her :)

some of these should I or shouldnt I abortion questions normally hit the high numbers in posts.

[clairey-s]

You were! But I don't think I could say the same for others if we started that debate here....x

[Dr Red]

Sorry, i was too harsh and inconsiderate in my answer.
Its because my computer overheated and i had to cool it down.
Anyway i'm still stresses out now, i've had to fit a new cooling fan.
I don't know what to say now.

[Goodsoulette]

If it happened at the beginning of August you are more than likely 6 weeks pregnant. You basically add 2 weeks on to the date of conception and thats how pregnant you are.

Make sure you have someone whose shoulder you can cry on. Sounds like you are doing the right thing for everyone.

If this bloke found out and you didn't tell him, would that ruin your friendship? If you both decided not to use contraception then it is both of your's responsibility. Its not just your burden.....so if you cant tell anyone else for support, well, tell him.

[louisa06]

milo1978, You should do what feels right for you.
if you feel an abortion is the right thing then i think you should go for it.
you don't have to tell him nothing as this is your life at the end of the day and he problably would not want the responsibilty either of bringing up a child
think what's best for you.

[bednobs]

gs, HOW can she be 6 weeks pregnaNT? there hasnt even been 6 weeks since she slept with him, and unless she concieved 2 weeks before thye slept together, either someone has added up wrong, or there is a a different father, no?