Funeral donations instead of flowers

[Pirate1]

If the family request donations instead of flowers to be sent to the funeral director, do the family get to know who has donated or if a card was sent to the funeral directors would it reach the family? I lost touch with an uncle years ago and have just read that he had died and would just like to send a card and donation but don't have any address. Does anyone have experience of this please?

[diane1706]

If you know the funeral director they should be able to pass it on and I'm sure they would pass a message onto the family if you asked.
When my sister died we asked for donations to the Air Ambulance, I know money was donated by her work colleagues but the AA never told me.

[cruella]

Normal procedures for something like this is, donations are usually taken at the Service Rooms or the Crematorium. There is normally a plate as mourneres go in to either of these places and a donation plate on the way out.
Normally, the Family are only told of the amount collected after the funeral. They then give instructions as to what charity or the like they wish to donate to. Or, they donate to the charity themselves.
Hope this helps.
You could always send it to the family direct with a card.

[bigmamma]

When one of my fathers neighbours died , the family stated family flowers only and donation to a charity if desired from others., to be left either with the family or at the funeral directors. Some short time later , my father recieved a thankyou letter from the charity .

[Kleiber]

The funeral directors will usually give a list to the next of kin, stating who has given a donation. It is up to the next of kin as to whether the funeral directors send the total donations off to the chosen charity or whether the next of kin do. Cards should be forwarded to the family by the funeral direstors. I'm sure that if you send a card/donation to the funeral directors, they will forward it to the immediate family, with details of who sent it.