divorce

[legend758duo]

after a comment by red crx i thought id post this question.


when you were divorced did you realise that your relationship was over or did you need to ask ?

seems obvious to me .
especially having been divorced i thought it was obvious.


any other divorcees got any opinions ?

[Pippa68]

Not being funny but I knew my relationship was over BEFORE I got divorced.

What was red's comment?

[legend758duo]

When your wife and you split did you need to ask if you were no longer a couple or was it fairly obvious?


seems a touch insensitive.

but as a big guy i got broad shoulders.

should never fall out with the clique.

but then i was never scared of them


: - )

you ok pip?

[dot.hawkes]

i knew my relationship was over before I divorced in 2005, i had kicked him out in 1995 but we were both too lazy to bother getting the papers filled in.

[legend758duo]

hi dot


i thought it obvious when somethings over


not so cleaer when its starting tho is it ?

seems if you wake up next to someone more than 7 days in a row youre an item .

so ive heard : - )

[Pippa68]

I am very well, thank you leg :o)

it's blimmin hot here ~ so I cannot complain!

Hmmmmm, sensitivity. I guess we can all come out with something that would appear insensitive to others. Are you still getting over a break up?

[legend758duo]

strangely no.

i was divorced ## years ago

but the haters never get their facts right lol


if it had been more recent i mightve been bothered tho

some people are so thoughtless

[Pippa68]

Oh NOW I see...well...bit of a difficult one because in both situations (although different) there may be one person who still doesn't know where the land lies in the relationship.

Before I split from my first husband he was dallying about not knowing if he wanted to dump me or not..therefore I didn't know either. However it came to a point when I didn't care if he had made his mind up or not..I had made my mind up!

Whe I first started seeing Mr Pippa I didn't know how serious he wanted the relationship to be, and little did I know he was thinking the same about me. We were dating for a good 6 months before we sat down and discussed it.

[legend758duo]

did he actually ask you out on a date?

or ask you out properly as a couple ?


i know thats old fashioned now but i think its nice if you find the right person

[Pippa68]

Let me think...actually no he didn't!

He asked me if I would like to go to a barbecue with him as the original person he was taking had to blow him out...(a fact I always like to remind him about!) we had been talking on the phone for months as our mums were friends and Mr P and I were friends when we were little kids.

So no, he never officially asked me out on a date. We just kept arranging to meet up.

[legend758duo]

when disd you officially become an item then.
you know when you say your boyfriend or fella .

when you meet people did you say this is mr p


hes a FRIEND of mine ?? lol

[Pippa68]

I think it was when he told me he loved me, about 6 months into the 'relationship'. He said he knew he loved me before then but was plucking up courage to tell me. After all, we had both been hurt by our ex's.

Before that he would introduce me as his friend. A bit weird considering what we were getting up to 'after hours'. When I moved in with him we became 'partners'. The term boyfriend and girlfriend seemed a bit naff considering we were over 30.

[legend758duo]

i know.
when i was married and worked in a factory.
there was a guy there about 58 maybe 60 he was always taking about "the baby" i thought it was his grand daughter.
he had one.

but it was in fact his girlfriend.
cos she was only 45 he called her the bavby


p1ssed ourselves everytime he said it.

made him feel young i guess

[redcrx]

that was insensitive? and yet you can call 4get crass and imply all sorts of things about her (and others) relationship because her and her fella have not actually asked each other if they are 'going out' or are 'a couple'?

bit pot and kettle isnt it?

I was just curious if you or your wife had actually had to say you were no longer an item? When i was a lot younbger boys and girls would say 'I dont want to go out with you anymore' so what in was asking was whether therewas a specific way of going about such things in your view

Oh and Im not in the clique, if there even is one :)

[legend758duo]

well firstly your sister chooses to post teenager like but you can agree with her but if you mention anything she says and disagree , youre wrong .

howd i know all that i commented on?
oh she posted it.
its admirable defending your sister.
but when she makes bimboesque statements even you must wonder what shes on about ?
no clique ?
ok club then ?
the boo hoo , rambo lamby ., 4getme but i want you to remember me , dont say anything to my sis shes just great , fan club?

she wants to be a growd up person .let her be growed up .
theres a nice sissy wister eh ?


god whiffys so right btw.say a word against the gang oops club and you get a torrent of abuse.

aint you got a kid to feed , bathe or read a story to.

theres a good sister.


btw the divorce thing was a bad attempt at a cheap shot.

must try harder red : - )

[redcrx]

it was a question relating to the comments you were making, not just to 4get, i thought you had agreed to differ on many things and not get personal.

And Id stick up for anyone that you claim hasnt got a true relationships because they havnt uttered the words 'will you go out with me' because i do not agree with the way you are constantly trying to belittle women and make them out to be 'bitches' and 'easy'. It may well be that your opinions are created from your past experiences but that does not mean that you should tar all women with the same brush.

I dont think its a matter of people growing up, perhaps just seeing what happens in real life.

Oh and dont forget Dot in that little list youre making. Shes our leader and we worship her!

[legend758duo]

seeems dot has rather different views on relationships .

unless im wrong ?


oh i dont belittle women .
i just think its sad how some of them , not all btw ,cheapen themselves and sell themselves short .

but i guessn if youre easy youre easy .

some would settle for what they can get

others try a bit harder .

some eat hamburgers and pretend its steak

others eat steak.

dont turn this into a 4get post .

im bored with her .

i feel more commited to her than her partner .

oops i mean loving relationship guy.

theyre not going out or anything .
well yes and no

[4gottenabout]

That must make Pippa Crass too hey legend. Oh dear. was fine with her though maybe you hold grudges too much. and my sis doesnt always agree with me at all, maybe she could just see what an @rse you're becoming. And grown up. I dont spend every night and day posting you tube videos, you're in your 40's at least I have a little time on my hands now I'm settled.