Emotionally exhausted

[dot.hawkes]

I've been back about an hour after the funeral of my son'r best mate, it was heart wrenching , he had a 40 motorbike escort from the Funeral parlour to the village church, they leapfrogged the courtage four at a time to hold up traffic at each junction and roundabout on the way to let us all through, that was amazing, they were all race marshalls apparently.
It was very hard watching my son and his friends carry the coffin into church but I was proud of them all. It was even harder watching my son's white face as he helped lower the coffin into the grave. I felt devastated for my son and his friends having to handle that, but they did so well.
there is a short you tube video Danny made at work the week before the accident, that's just how he was.
Can we have loads of trivia tonight please?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?vtu_yVP3jqV0

Danny

[dot.hawkes]

thanks you all, i have just crashed out asleep it is so draining, his Mum is amazing and I have no idea how she has coped this last 2 weeks, her pain was there but she was able to thank everyone and get through it all. My hope for life is that I never have to do that for one of mine.

[Katie~77]

Awww Dot, don't quite know what to say. So so sad.xxx

[Carakeel]

Dot, just one thing - You mentioned how amazing Danny's Mum was at the funeral today. It is usually a few weeks after the funeral, when people have stopped coming around, that it is hardest to face that your child will never ever be coming into the house / room anymore; you will never ever hear his / her voice or feel their hug anymore. That is when the shock really hits home and a desperately sad loneliness can set in. This is also when people tend to stay away, sometimes as they just don't know what to say. Perhaps you can keep this in mind and make a point of dropping by to give her some support when that time comes. It will help her, I'm sure. Best wishes.

[bensmum]

It's a horrible thing for them to have to go through and such a waste of a young life.
Carakeel is right about keeping in touch. One of my son's friends died very young and the boys used to go round to see his parents - they were really pleased to see them as they felt it kept the memory alive for them.

[dot.hawkes]

Thanks carakeel and bensmum I know you are absolutely right, hopefully we will be able to remember him for years to come and we will always be involved with each others families.

[Louisa 69]

That's so sad i had a lump in my throat reading that. You must be so proud of him . My condolences to you all

[Aprilis]

Large V&T on it's way to you Dottie love...

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[pussnboots]

I agree with Carakeel when someone dies whatever age and its worse when they are young, it is worse after the funeral. Before that it is like an unreal world that exists. There are arrangements to make, lots of friends and family constantly in contact, cards to read, messages to answer, and then wham the funeral is over, everyone goes their seperate ways and just carry on with their lives. It is now that Dannys closest family and friends will feel their loss, it is now that the reality sets in that this young man will not be walking through the door ever again. So dot I know you will pop round to see his mum and have a chat, perhaps a bottle of something now and again and whilst you are chatting just tell her that some of us on AB are thinking of her and we are not all greeny silly bu**ers.

[Redbel]

Hiya Dot...... I really can't add much to all the lovely replies you have had, but would just like to say..... I told you they would do Danny proud and they did. I almost felt like I knew him Dot because of our conversations, you described him as someone who liked a laugh and a joke, well you werent wrong there mate. Speak to you soon Dot xx