Need help for a friend.......................

[blu3wave]

A guy I know, suffers from depression. He occaionally drinks and cant find a decent girlfriend :( When he does, he clings to them like no one else will have him, which is probably what drives the women away.
Anyway, I think that's part of the problem, coz he's so clingy he'll pretty much have anybody at this stage.
I dont know how to help him get over his depression, on top of which I think he's suffering from mid-life crisis too! He's a real mess and cries every now and then.
How do I help him? Also, I think he should find a nice girl for himself, he doesnt want to get out of the house, is there any other way for him to socialize and meet women?

[cazzz1975]

well, if he wants to get better he needs to dump you as a friend..but like you said he is desperate...

[blu3wave]

By women, I dont mean frumps or tattooed, binge drinking, drug addicted slags. I mean a nice woman who will take care of him and maybe slap some sense into his thick head. He could really use it..... anyway, he hasnt had much luck on the internet. So any other advice would be v helpful!

[cazzz1975]

you are such a wordsmith...

[blu3wave]

Well, I'm the only one taking care of him. He has no family, his parents disowned him a long time ago .... so i feel its up to me now to find him a gf.
Can you help or are you a useless cow, cazz?

[cazzz1975]

If I were a useless cow then I would be you

[redcrx]

how is his GP helping his depression and what makes you think that a woman is the cure he needs?

He may not want your help, he may be better off dealing with this alone

[kipchik]

what a joke ,,i agree cazzz,,but this blu tw@t gets off on his insults,,is it a he or a she btw,doubt a pic would solve that either

[andrea81]

Does he have any interests? Thing is if he or you (as the friend) are concentrating on finding him a gf, then you run the risk of him being more depressed if he can't find one.

Maybe encouraging him to feel happy in his own skin at the moment and start socializing in a way that he feels comfortable with. If he had interests then he could do something with that. He then could meet comeone who is similar to him!

[blu3wave]

if you were a useless cow, you'd be a burger, cazz. Now f**k off. Are you fat? You must be as you are clearly hurt by all my earlier posts. Want more KFC?? yum yum

If i leave him alone, he'll cry his head off and go deeper into depression. He might even harm himself or jump out the window. I'm worried about him, as I care for him. I cant get him to see a GP as he lies a lot and may lie about seeing one.

[cazzz1975]

you are obsessed with fat people blu3, I think you have a problem, seriously, I havnt read about so many fat people since you posted. your friend is desperate yet he wont go for you lol, apart from looking like a st bernard you probably have the bark to match

[blu3wave]

He's a bit weird so I doubt he'll meet someone very similar to him. What he needs is a nice, mature, responsible woman who'll keep him in good spirits and take care of him and the house and drive him around as I dont think he's a very good driver either. She'd have to be a very good cook, no career as she'd have to nurse him 24 hrs a day and finally, she'd have to agree with everything he says, even when he's wrong or being plain stupid. He's very silly in that sense, but if I can find a woman like that for him, they would make a perfect couple.

[redcrx]

i dont know why any off us bother. You try to make out that you are caring for this guy but then you come out with stuff like that about cazz.

let the poor chap be, if he doesnt want to see a GP then leave him to it. Be there if he asks for your help but i really cant see that itd help him in any way. He must have someone other than you to turn to

[cazzz1975]

btw, please let him harm himself, its got to be better than looking at your mutton chops :)

another pointless post from an overweight troll

[redcrx]

perhaps you could volunteer yourself? as you care so much about his welfare

[tiny e.a]

Burgers aren't useless, they're useful for things like staving off hunger and using to give children a treat.

All I cn suggest if he won't leave the house is to ifnd him a prostitute who does home deliveries, go high class to avoid the tatoos and frumps you fear.

[cazzz1975]

she cant be nice red, she is insecure and probably porky in stature, which is why she is so insulting.

I would imagine a chocolate binge would cheer her up

[4GS]

oi
I'm a friend of cazzz1975 and I've never slept with her!!!!

[cazzz1975]

looking like you do I would imagine he probably sees you as a walrus

[happyjo]

Despite all your help, it is only him who can change. If he is suffering from depression then all the materialistic things and girlfiends will not help.

The best thing you can do is encourage him to seek professional help. Depression is an illness, like prolongued dose of flu, a girlfriend will not cure flu.

It is good that he has you to support him but try not to let him put too much on you... as he may rely on you too much and use you as a crutch.

Once he has been referred to a psychologist and perhaps perscribed some anti depressants, he may see the silver lining on the cloud