teenagers & their sex lives

[slinkycat]

if your teenage son or daughter were in a steady relationship, would you let them share a bedroom in your house? If they were over 16, and you knew they were sexually active anyway, is it better to accept that and provide a safe place (rather than them bonking behind the bike sheds or wherever) as long as they are discreet? Or would that freak you out? I know how I feel about this,just wanted to hear some other opinions

[warpig3]

Oh that is a tricky one. Cant speak from experience but a colleague of mine was in that situation and he decided that it was was better to provide a 'safe' place as you say. That was fine until they kept him awake all night bonking!

[lizzydrippin]

I would have no problem at all with letting them share a room, preferably they'd be in a steady relationship.

[4GS]

Not under my roof, I wouldn't feel comfortable at all

[ruby27]

Yes, but discreet and quiet.

[laurence2]

Years ago it wasen't the ''done thing'' to stay over.

I'm old fashioned so would have to say no to my sons bringing there gf home to share a bedroom, i can see both sides of the argument tho.

My brother-in-laws daughter's bf regulary stays at there house, and now he walks around as if its his house ie in boxer shorts without a care in the world, they are now regretting the day they allowed him to stay overnight as now there daughter has started arguing with them because they mentioned to her that he was staying to often

This is one of the ground rules that me and my brothers and sister obeyed when we were living at home as mum and dad requested this, i would like to think that my boys would respect me and mrs laurence to, seperate rooms i would'nt have an issue tho.

[dwaty]

i was once that teen sharing a room with my boyfriend that was 7 yrs ago and were still together now with 2 children I'm now 24 i was 17 at the time.
so id say give her/him the benefit of the doubt. at least you know where they are. my friend when she was 17 got pregnant with twins and her parents had no idea that she even had a boy friend,

i hope this helps a bit. x

[flip_flop]

No

[4getmenot]

yes they are going to do it anyway and I'd feel alot better if they were safe at home doing it than trying to find other places like other peoples houses where it would be less private or in some graveyard somewhere.

[eyeshade]

Yes I would but only if they are over 16 and using protection. If I thought for one minute they were not mature enough to take on that and adhere to it then they wouldn't but they would probably go and do it anyway away from home. I also think it should be mentioned that the earlier girls have sexual activity, the more risk they have of getting cervical cancers, so again more nurturing in this area needs to be done by parents especially for girls.

[Supernick]

I genuinely have no idea whether at age 27 I could share a bed with a girlfriend in my parents house. It's never happened before, and I don't know what their reaction would be!

[4getmenot]

no even at 29 my mum wouldnt let me

[redcrx]

my mum looked really nervous the first time my husband and I stayed over lol

[4getmenot]

did you have to keep one leg on the floor for when she banged on ceiling :-)

[leg_end758]

when i worked in pizza hut as a manager there were about half the 16 / 17 year olds whos boyfriends stayed over.
mum even made them breakfast in bed .
i was surprised at first but then realised that most of them had been sexually active from 13 or 14 and therefore it was just common.
not with all but perhaps 50% of them .

so i guess its the done thing now .

so yes .

[Goodsoulette]

lol Supernick, thats ridiculous.

When I was a teenager I was allowed boyfriends to stay from the age of 16, up until then they werent allowed anywhere near my bedroom. I remember my mum was in Sri LAnka for a couple of months and my dad used to say "Im going out, Ill be back at 1". Really all he was doing was giving us some space to make some noise lol

I have boys and I wouldn't mind their gf staying over. Even if I had a girl it would be fine too.

[Ethel]

A problem is you let the steady boy/girl friend stay over, sharing the bed, because you like, trust and know him or her. They've been going out for months and you all get on.

When that ends and the next one is a shifty, good for nothing waster you can't trust and feel relaxed around - how do you say no?

[4getmenot]

good point ethel, I guess they have to earn my repect until I let them stay over

[DJerba]

My parents have always been strict on stuff like this. I wasn't even allowed a bf in my room until I was 18...no boys upstairs those were the rules. I wasn't allowed mky bloke to stay over until I was 21 and even then he had to stay in my room and I stayed in my sisters room. I'm now 22 and we've been together for 2 1/2 years he stays over most weekends now and stays in my room.

When I was younger and wasn't allowed a bf to stay over, at the time i thought it was completely out of order but now I appreciate it and respect my parents for it. But obviously everyones different there are plenty of safe places to 'bonk' you dont need to be doing it under your parents roof...I was no angel when I was younger and I def wont be letting ym kids do it.

[sleepyj]

i was 17 when my bf stayed over in my parents house ,,,, my mum was ok about it but my dad was not at first then he was ...18 years on im still with same bf i have 2 boys 16 and 13 nooooooooooooo way would i ever let them have gf to stay when they are older ...i would feel very awkward in my own home ... just hope they never ask...

[sleepyj]

yes bf stayed in my bedroom ...