At witts end

[sweetsugar]

Im in pickle....i me this guy on line...
And we had a great first date, fab time we get on fantastic.,,Met his mates, they love me to pieces, get on great with his family and really inco-operated with the family.
Things have moved fast we have been together, yes i stay round often as does he we chat all the time. He is in-to me... So why is he online dating still--i have asked him to come off it only to find he is on another!!!
Why is he doing this!!!
I would also love a man's response on this....

[weeal]

oh no, ive been through this, the rat couldnt help himself, even up to 2 years dating I was checking up on him - dating sites, sleazy sites you name it he had a username, drove me totally mad

i dont know what his problem is sweetsugar but dont think it can be cured

sorry

[Ice-Maiden]

Me neither, sweets. Some guys are just addicted to this sort of thing, but if he thought you were "the one for him", I think he would've given up this online dating lark ages ago. He's not worth the bother.

[weeal]

it will only make you paranoid and suspicious, not a nice way to go

[sweetsugar]

I know but he is carrying on with the sweet ness like nothing!!!

Is he bored....does he answer any of these??

[weeal]

men can lie whilst looking you straight in the eye
then you lose all trust

Talking from recent experience
RUN

mine couldnt give me an explanation but I could never trust him completely, cos he lied and lied again

[sweetsugar]

Its crazy though!!
I practically live there...

He talks about us in the future....its seems like he is bored...and the hilarious thing is he has given me access to passwords so if i wanted to i could easily check...

Shall i lie low cause this is like him having control!!! or shall i watch the space....

[weeal]

i moved in with my fella, we shared his PC and i was shocked what I found on there !!!
moved out within 6 months!

he still said he wanted us to buy a house together, how could I ever consider that when I knew he sat on dating websites and porn sites all day when I was at work

I happened to know his password too at one time and when I checked I didnt like what I found

best leave alone, not nice to hear I know

[sweetsugar]

Man's point of view!!!
Why do you do they do it?

The strangest thing is i feel he just looks!!!and that is it

[weeal]

but why should he 'just look'? if he is also on other sites is it deception?

do you feel the need to do the same? no

it is completely up to you sweetsugar and Im sorry if I gave too honest an answer.

god luck hon

[lizzydrippin]

sweetsugar, don't be so daft and give the poor guy a break! does he actually go out with any of these women? he doesn't does he? like you said, he just wants to look and thats that, where's the harm in it? he's not ignoring you is he, he's still giving you loads of attention and he isn't sneaking around doing it, he's being completely up front about it and even gives you his password. You really have nothing to worry about, your fella uses these sites just as he would use a game site. When he starts sneaking around and hiding what he's doing then is the time to start walking.

[Ice-Maiden]

Yes - but Lizzie - it appears he's going from one site to another. Definitely seems addicted - or bored.

[sweetsugar]

Lizzie!!!
You see chic you see things how i do....the password is for his hotmail.
I can see he how is now signed up for more dating sites!!!
and can see his password!!!!
He must be bored!!!
Or shall i just quit and be done with this guy when i like him so much!!!!

[weeal]

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/R elationships-and-Dating/Question469093.html

[country_boy]

Ask him!
Or set up a dating account with fake tasty photo, contact him and see how far he will go - arrange to meet and you turn up and slap him round the chops!

[lizzydrippin]

hey ya know what country _ boy, that is one good idea! at least sweetsugar would know exactly what the score was then.

[Sasha13]

My ex did this - I wondered if he was just looking so sent him a message from another profile - not to trap him, just to find out where I stood.

He'd asked her for a drink before he even knew 'her' name - 2 messages after she'd messaged him to say hello.

Sorry, lizzydrippin, 12 months ago I'd have come up with the same excuse for him as you. sweetsugar if you think this is innocent, you're fooling yourself.

He's on a dating site - what more evidence do you need?? If you need to see it for yourself do what I did. I guarantee it's not harmless fun on his part.