Tell him to do one, spotty chops jnr will get over it and eventually stop asking for his mumdad type thing. This guy is obviously either; not of sound mind or was gay all olong and hiding the fact from his family and friends including his PARTNER and eventually OWN CHILD! As for moving his other thing in with you 3? HELLO? Trust my child with a stranger of any sexuality I DON'T THINK SO! As for special nights in? Where do you go; local Premier Travel Inn for the night while he gets rogered stupid? To thyne own self be true. And don't ever forget the importance of the little one.