Afraid of Losing Friend
Hi All,
A few years ago my best friend was in a relationship with a horrible guy. He constantly 'borrowed' money from her with no intention of giving it back, didn't like it if she met up with me without him being there himself, and made no secret of the fact that he thought I was 'fit', even saying it within earshot of her. It got to the point where I saw my friend once a month if I was lucky. When I commented that it would be nice to see her more, or that she shouldn't give him money, she of course took his side, and when he found out what I'd said, things just got worse. He made sure she never saw me, told lies about me and basically made my best friend hate me. This all lead to her not talking to me at all for over a year and I was devestated, I was only looking out for her.
Anyway, after a year of not talking to me, the boyfriend left her for a younger girl. My friend came back to me with a broken heart and dented pride, admitting that I was right all along. Things have been fine since.
A couple of weeks ago however, she tells me they've been in touch over Facebook and have been talking for hours every night. She's now planning on meeting up with him again. I'm just so worried. I've told her I'll have nothing to do with him, she knows I hate him but I'm sure she'll still go ahead with it.
I'm terrified I'm going to lose my best friend again, I'm pretty sure this guy hasn't changed and I don't want her to get hurt, but I'm worried if I start 'badmouthing' him, she'll block me out again.
Reading this back it makes me sound quite selfish, but its more about her happiness than mine, she's guaranteed to get her heart broken again!
Sorry its so long, but if anyone's got some good advice for me I'd be so grateful, thank you!!