do you think a size 14 is unattractive?

[ilsonchick]

Well wen i met my bf a year ago i was 9 stone and a size 8 now im 13 stone and a size 14. ive dieted for a week and lost half a stone. i just want to know if ppl think 12st 8lbs is big for a 5'9 girl

[ilsonchick]

Well 1stly I put on 4 stone due to being anorexic when I met my bf. I was 9 stone for a reason. I didn�t eat. I lived on 3 gingernut biscuits a day and I went to the gym everyday by cycling the 2miles there and back. My ideal weight what I was for years is 11 and half stone. Ive gained more due to my bf being the typical man that can eat ote and not put any weight on. So when he has chips all the time so do I . But now I don�t want to do that anymore. He says im gorgeous but I don�t believe him because when we first met when I was a size 8 he couldn�t keep his hands off me. He was all over me and we were at it like rabbits for around 9 months. Now ive put this weight on im lucky if I get a kiss and cuddle because im sure he is not turned on by my size14 body. I no its down to personality etc.. but if your overweight men being men (no offence) do start to think hummm not that fit letting ur self go love and don�t pay u that attention as much as they did when you were thinner. I just want to be a size 10 again its so upsetting not being able to even get one leg into my old jeans. I will succeed. Thin might not be everything but I have to admit people I felt so much happier and sexier when I was a size 8-10.
Thanks for all the comments xxx

[Fernikle]

Is it you who is behind asking this question or your bf? Either way....insecurity rings around this question. Be true to yourself and you will find answers. You sound as though you've put weight on in contentment. Have you changed your contraception method? that too will put weight on you.

[cazzz1975]

its also can be part of the anorexia, the feeling of losing control, the negative feelings because your eating food again.

[ilsonchick]

Im on the mini pill of cerezett what you take every single day and never ever have a period again on. I doubt its that as ive been on it for 3 years. I think the answer about it being tied in with my previous anorexia problem is right. I feel negative about myself, food, the way i look, the way i was when i didnt eat a thing. Ive had a sickness bug this weekend so ive dropped another 3lbs. Its not my bf writing this no, hes away on holiday at the moe for 2 weeks so im even more insecure that hes prob seen loads of beach babes and no beached whales! xx

[cazzz1975]

I sympathise with you, unfortunately its not an easy illness to recover from, If you manage to gain sensible control over your eating (not extreme control where you are starving yourself) you may start to feel a bit better.

go for the healthy diet option, dont eat junk because it will make you feel bad about yourself, try and be active during the day as well. remember not all is lost, you are not huge!!

Dont get into dangerous eating, its not good for your long term health, (loss of bone density, fertility problems, loss of muscle mass, thyroid problems, loss of hair ect...)

If you eat very healthily you can maintain a healthy weight and mentally you wont feel so out of control, it will also improve your mood.

[ilsonchick]

Thanks Cazz ita a big support to know that people care. I think another big influence of my problems with my weight gain is that a nasty girl across the road from me (who is jeaslous of me because she fancies my bf) has been calling me fat and other nasty swear words to do with being fat that i will not put on here as they are disgusting. She did it on Good Friday. My mate came over who is a size 18 and we went out in the car and she was walking by in the street she starting shouting that i was fat and why would my bf want to be with a fat c()w like me. Just gets me down and my bf says its just childish of her and yes it is but it still hurts to hear that doesnt it? Such a shame as i feel im a lovely person with so much to give yet my mind is 95% occupied on my weight....

[cazzz1975]

you should use her venom as inspiration to eat healthy, remember if you put the right nutrients into your body and try to do 20mins of exercise daily you will not only lose weight but you will glow with health.

It will also do your self esteem a power of good, ignore the girl, remember he likes you not her.