im a lil worried

[lottie1987]

i was about 2 weeks late for my period but now its finally come i had sex about a month ago i havent yet done a pregnancy test because im scared of wat its gonna say i havent really been in this situation b4 so i dnt really know wat 2 expect so please can u give me some advise my periodis reall heavy and its never normally like this .

[daffidazey]

You have 2 lines? This would mean you are pregnant. x

[redcrx]

so theres your answer hun, looks like you are pregnant.

deep breaths and sit calmly for a while to let it sink in. Its shocking at first, even for women who have planned it.

[daffidazey]

Sending you a ((hug)), lottie. Got a feeling you need it. x

[lottie1987]

thanks you but what am i gonna do now im scared

[redcrx]

i think you have got a lot of thinking to do. no-one can tell you what you need to do but a wise start will be to confide in someone close to you but who can support you with whatever you decide.

we can all give you the options, but you need some support through this.

[~max~]

You poor thing. Can I ask how old you are? Can you maybe talk to your parents, or someone you trust? It is going to be a very stressful time for you, you need to talk to someone about your options. Maybe your GP? Big hugs.

[daffidazey]

Can you talk to the other person involved? Maybe then you can come to a decision that is best for you. Also like the others said, confide in someone close to you, you will need support whatever decision you make. x

[lottie1987]

ok then i cant really talk 2 him but it looks like im gonna have 2 but he is going 2 go mad he is pretty violent so i will have 2 be really carefull i only had sex with him beacuse i was drunk and i regret it now y am i so foolish i hate my self i really dnt no wat 2 do i think im gonna try telling my parents first but i cant tell them who the father is because i will be disowned i will go 2 my gp 2 morro but im gonna go 2 his later on 2 day he will prob be really mad and ask me 2 get rid of it but im not going 2 i cant do that 2 my baby thank you all for ur support

[redcrx]

if you were drunk and hes a violent man then Id say dont tell him about it for now, until you have made decisions and are feeling strong enough to face him.

what about friends?

[~max~]

Oh dear. Talk to your parents hun, it's the best option. Don't tell the "man"(I'm using this term losely!) until you have got used to the idea and are aware of all your options. You are probably all over the place right now, and you need to get your head together first. Please talk to your parents, go to the doctor, and have a good, long think about what YOU want. There is help out there for you, whatever you decide to do hun, don't despair. Big hug! xxx

[lottie1987]

i wanna tell her but she will start asking hu the father is and i cant tell anyone i think its best i just run away from this i coulld move 2 france were my friend is he will help me then no1 from ere will be able 2 find me thanks

[redcrx]

see, now you are panicking and not thinking straight.

Speak to someone, theres no reason not to say who the father is but you can just say that youd appreciate help and advice rather than lectures and arguments.

[~max~]

No no no!!! Don't run away sweetie, it won't solve anything!!!
I promise it will be alright. If you can't talk to your mum, then talk to your GP, or someone at school maybe. I promise they will help hun!!
Please don't run away. xxx

[perigra]

don't rush into any hasty decissions lottie.
it doesn't sound like you'd get much support from the father to be. so maybe you shouldn't tell him (ever)
you'll probably need your family though but take your time and think it through.

[natalie_1982]

Lottie, I just posted on your other thread in the pregnancy section - thanks max for pointing me here!

Please, please don't run away hun. It really won't fix anything. The best thing I can suggest is to take some time out for yourself - you don't have to tell anyone today if you don't want to. Keep it to yourself, mul things over, think about what YOU want and what is best for you, then go and see your GP tomorrow. They will be able to offer you support whatever you choose to do.

One thing I can promise is that it won't be as bad as you think it will be, nothing ever is. And don't put yourself down, you're not foolish. You do need to start taking responsibility though sweetie, and that means facing the issue head on - go and see your GP, don't run away xx

[lottie1987]

ok i will tell my mum but just not tell her who the father is im so gratefull for all ur comments i dont think i will tell him that he is going 2 be a dad i will have 2 tell him that im going 2 be a mum but just say that the baby is not his i think that is the best thing i can do i wont be mad at me then and im only 20 years old but i thik i will be a good mum and i will do wateva i can for my baby even if no1 is there for me i will go 2 my gp and sort everytiing out i think i will be ok thank you i just gotta keep calm thanks for all the hugs and everything

[daffidazey]

Sounds like a good plan, lottie. Us 'orrible lot are always here to try and offer advice where we can so please stay on the site. Daffi x

[natalie_1982]

Lottie, keep us updated on here won't you hun? I am pregnant (due next week - agh!) and the support I have had from this site has been great - my pregnancy was planned and I still get flustered and worried, so you must really be going through the mill. I hope that you will be able to get support from this site too.

You're not the first to make a mistake, and you certainly won't be the last. I accidentally fell pregnant at 15, I didn't have the baby, but just so you don't have to feel alone, many of us have been there - I know what it feels like to feel like everything is crashing around you, and I promise it won't be as bad as you think it is.

I am sure you wil be a great mum, you be strong sweetie, everything will be fine xx

[lottie1987]

oh i will do u have helped me alot all of u i just gotta stop thinking of my self there is 2 of us now i will tell my mum when im free months gone i think so then they cant ask me 2 have an abortion even tho i wouldnt do that what will the g.p do and what symptoms am i gonna experiance ?

[redcrx]

your GP may run another pregnancy test but then wont do anything other than refer you to a midwife when youre about 8-10 weeks pregnant. You will then be under the midwifes care.

Ask your GP for any leaflets or guidance as to what you can and cant eat, drink or do.

There is a lot of support and advice to be found on here too and if we can answer any questions to help then we will.

symptoms, well they are different for all women. With my first i had sore breasts from about 8 weeks but never any sickness. We this one (im pregnant too) i had the opposite.

do you have a job or are you at college?