Hi josie,
No, we had no trouble taking my daughter out of school, I think they were only too glad to get rid of her,
our problems really started after that, (education wise), as Social Services said that as we took her out, they wouldn't help with her education, so we hird a specialist two days a week, and for the rest, as I was working, my wife did it, and for someone with no training, she did a marvellous job.
But I have some Idea of the problems you had, as a I know a Mother who did the same as you for her daughter in mainstream, she , (the daughter has passed on now), but at the time, she couldn't understand almost anything that was being taught, she had a helper, but it made no difference, both the school and Social services initially refused to move her to a special needs, so she took them to a Tribunal, and won.
A tribunal isn't legally binding, but they agreed to abide by the decision.
Poor Girl, (the mother) had been through hell, but she kept fighting, as you did.
I think you all, the mothers and carers are wonderful.