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Unsure about friendship
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I used to be good friends with a girl in my year and form at school but when we left school we didn't keep in touch for long. We drifted apart because she liked pubbing and clubbing and I didn't. She was a lot more outgoing and confident than me as well which was also part of the reason I didn't want to go out with her.
Anyway, I recently saw her dad and he was telling me that I should go and see her in her new house with her bf (she'd just moved in) so I contacted her and we arranged a date, but then she was ill and I went on holiday and we never met up.
Well since then I haven't rearranged it - daily life getting in the way. Today I saw her dad again and he said that she was round his last night and told him she was pregnant.
I knew that she would be pregnant sooner or later so it wasn't too much of a shock, (bf, home.....baby) it makes sense. Now though (some of you know I have had an abortion and I have a problem with seeing pregnant women and it upsets me) I am unsure if I should still arrange to meet up with her. I am happy for her but I think it would make me feel awful if she kept telling me about the pregnancy.
Anyway, I recently saw her dad and he was telling me that I should go and see her in her new house with her bf (she'd just moved in) so I contacted her and we arranged a date, but then she was ill and I went on holiday and we never met up.
Well since then I haven't rearranged it - daily life getting in the way. Today I saw her dad again and he said that she was round his last night and told him she was pregnant.
I knew that she would be pregnant sooner or later so it wasn't too much of a shock, (bf, home.....baby) it makes sense. Now though (some of you know I have had an abortion and I have a problem with seeing pregnant women and it upsets me) I am unsure if I should still arrange to meet up with her. I am happy for her but I think it would make me feel awful if she kept telling me about the pregnancy.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Hi 4get, I had a bit of counselling quite soon after abortion and again more recently but I didn't find it helpful.
I know its inevitable people are going to have babies and people close to me are going to have babies and I can't just shuit everyone off because of that otherwise I will end up really lonely. I wonder though that because I haven't seen this friend for a long time, is it worth rekindling the friendship especially at a time which is going to make it difficult for me and may cause problems between us, or should I let it fizzle out. Thing is though I could also really do with friends as I don't have any really apart from my housemate
I know its inevitable people are going to have babies and people close to me are going to have babies and I can't just shuit everyone off because of that otherwise I will end up really lonely. I wonder though that because I haven't seen this friend for a long time, is it worth rekindling the friendship especially at a time which is going to make it difficult for me and may cause problems between us, or should I let it fizzle out. Thing is though I could also really do with friends as I don't have any really apart from my housemate