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I am not grasping, Tetjam, and for your information, I'm actually a pig - not a cow. There's hardly any money there, to be honest, just a few hundred and no property, and what there is will go to my bloke and my kids, so there's nothing to be ungrateful about. I understand she's leaving me a ring (quite, valuable and not subject to any conditions) which I don't want and probably won't accept - or if I do, I'll give it away. The others can do what they like with their share, belittling clause or otherwise. That's their business.
What I'm aggrieved about is the implication that he's not capable of looking after his own affairs just because he went bankrupt twelve years ago, and that there's no chance to put her right on the matter. She apparently thought that once you were bankrupt, your money was never your own again, and she wouldn't listen fully to the solicitor when he tried to put her right, hence the retraction clause, which was all he could persuade her to agree to.
I'm glad to hear that the will won't have to be read out, and that the bankruptcy will go no further than my bro-in-law. I'm not ashamed of it, and I don't deny it, but I wouldn't have liked the idea of some of the rest of the family knowing the contempt she held us in, financially speaking.
So, some sensible advice here, for which I'm grateful. Twenty-four hours on, I've had a chance to think and decided what I've said above - it's his choice whether to accept his legacy and what he does with it. I just don't want any of it and I'll either refuse or give away what is left to me.
Cheers all.