Relationship question

[Sarah*]

I'm 23 and have just broken up with my boyfriend of 6 years, I just felt that our relationship had fizzled out and didn't see any future in it. I still love him very much, but I'm just not in love with him anymore (a cliche I know,but true). I know I've made the right decision, but I'm just so scared as to what is going to happen in the future. I have friends but sort of drift between a few different groups. I'm scared I'm never going to meet anyone else. Advice gratefully appreciated.

[Doolallygirl]

Sorry to hear about that. 6 years is a long time when you are so young (I'm 21 so that isn't patronizing!). My sister went out with the same boy since she was 15 and she is 23 now and they have just split up. She just goes out a lot more with her girl friends now and she is always on the lookout for some new man. She is flitting between about 3 at the moment! Be patient, it won't happen straight away, and would you want to go straight into another relationship so soon? You probably miss the company, but the more you go out with your friends, the more likely you are to meet someone new. Remember you are still young! (Again, don't want to sound patronizing!). My saying used to be that there were too many men and too little time! Try out that theory!

[Wispy68]

Hello Sarah. I think it's fortunate that you were able to leave this relationship now, rather than let it drag on for years, just out of habit and familiarity. I do understand that it feels scary and a little strange after being with him for six years, but I'm sure that in good time, you will meet someone special and be happy. Maybe you could just enjoy being single for a while, rather than rushing into a new relationship because you don't want to be on your own. I don't want to sound patronising, but you're still young enough to do what you like.

[andy hughes]

The feelings you are experiencing are part of a normal grieving process for a large part of your life that has gone. So many things you used to do were as part of a couple, and you have to take time to adjust to your new situation. While that time passes, be comforted that, once you have learned to live as a single person, you will never feel this trepidation again - it's like riding a bike, once you;ve learned to do this, you will always be able to do it again after any future relationships break up. The feeling that no-one will ever fancy you again is perfectly natrual, and totally unfounded as well! When you are ready for a relationship, someone will come along. Take it from a man, a girl who appears uninterested, as you will for a while, is deeply attractive, you will have no shortage of interest, but do heed the previous advice, and take your time. Enjoy the single life until you are ready to love again, and that is definitely 'when', not 'if'!