Will power.

[IHateMe]

I never do anything i say i am going to. e.g. tidy my room do my homework on time cut down on junk food. How do i gain will power i say i will do something then dont. I end up with detentions, depression & tiredness. uhhhh its horrible & i cant pull myself out of these habits. :( please help. thankyou. x

[Scarlett]

It sounds like you are giving yourself too many things to change at once. Try doing things in smaller steps and maybe make a chart! So, from Monday, you are going to make sure you tidy your room. No excuses, Monday night is room tidying night.
Prepare for it- put on some fabulous loud music, get some nice smelly spray and some cleaning stuff, and go crazy. Tidy and clean for at least 2 albums before you are allowed to leave the room for any reason! Then when you have achieved that small goal, give yourself a reward. Time it so you can watch a film afterwards, or Eastenders, or whatever, something to look forward to.

Once the room is really clean, try your hardest to pick up after yourself to keep it nice, but then do another blitz in a months time.

Do the same with the homework. Set yourself a WRITTEN homework timetable. A set subject and amount of time per night, and set aside a time to do it.Tell everyone at home about this so they can encourage you and make you go and do it!!

Healthy eating is hard without help. Your family (if you eat with them) need to do this too. But make sure you have a good supply of NICE fruit and take an apple and banana to school with you to have at break time. That in itself will really help change your palatte. Drink lots of water. Get your family to eat more veg at dinner time.

[Rosetta]

Baby steps is the answer. For me, I procrastinated for England but it was part of my depression.
Set small achievable goals, tick it off when done. I found if I broke it down into small bits it was easier, eg today chuck out all magazines/newspapers

[sandmaster]

Both right - small steps!!
Some people seem more organised than others, some appear more lazy than others, but generally it always takes an effort. But it is better to look back at what you have achieved and relax, rather than sit in a mess and worry about what you have to do and the consequences of not doing it. You are half way to success by asking the question!!

[Velvetee]

The important thing here, is it sounds like you are suffering from depression, which should probably be dealt with in the first instance.

The user name you use does sound like you possibly have low self esteem and confidence. Do you perhaps have a counselling service at your school, where you can discuss your anxieties in confidence?

[sandmaster]

I didn't pick up on your name. You are going through a difficult age - we have all been there. Keep fighting, be proud of the things you have achieved and strive for the things you want to achieve. Life is never easy but it can be good. And remember, most of your peers have the same doubts. Good luck!!

[IHateMe]

thankyou everyone i have only just got these answers but thankss!!!
i am planning on tidying my room tomorow no excuses.
homework the next day and a time table.
& healthy eating.
but i will try not to do it all at once.
:)
xxxxx

[phillipa.d]

...and get things in perspective too, hun. No one ever went to prison cos their room was untidy... Dont put too much pressure on yourself. Work out whats todays priority, and go from there...

[IHateMe]

thaks a lot :)
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