its not really a question, but...

[muppeteer]

I split up with my fiance of 8 years yesterday. Although i dont regret it as it was the right thing to do, I feel like a bag of crap & can't stop crying.
Just needed to get it out there.

[Sachs]

Hi mupp! So you feel pretty down? How do you feel & what's been happening? xxx

[muppeteer]

My feelings have been slowly changing for ages. His behaviour has contributed to this, but he is basically a decent guy, & I'm really cut up about hurting him. I feel like I'm greaving, so he must feel even worse

[Sachs]

Theres probably no way round those feelings. You obviously care & respect him more as a friend. Just look at it as it 'had' to happen sooner or later. Would you rather he got on with his life sooner or later? You know you made the right decision. It will hurt for both of you for a while, eventually you will both accept & move on seperately. xxx

[sara3]

Sachs is right and so are you. it is a period of grieving, you've lost something even if it was your decision. give it time and you'll both know it was the right thing to do.

keep your happy memories but look forward.. exciting things will be ahead x

[obNOXious]

horrible feeling muppeteer ( great name by the way:).
When my wife and I split up I was very very very upset for a very very very long time, even though i fully appreciated that it had come to the end of the road for us. She left me so it's slightly different, but it wasn't an acrimonious split but i do still miss her and wiash it could have been different for us. she has since got with someone else and had further children and seems to be really very happy, but it's still very hard and it does take time for that grief as you so properly put it to fade. just give yourself time and i'm sure things will eventually ease, just hang in there.

[beanebabe]

Keep your chin up Mupps. You are going to feel rubbish for a while, you can't turn your feelings off after 8 years. I am sure you have a good circle of friends at home and work who will support you. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get out there and have some fun, most of all don't mope around. Another man will probably walk into your life when you least expect it and he'll be 10 times better than the other guy. Eat some chocolate, I find that always helps, lol, xxx

[sqad617]

8years ago....period of grieving? Nonsense. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get on with life.....8yrs!!!!!!

What have you benn doing in the last 8yrs..jobs, dating etc?

[muppeteer]

I dont get where you are coming from sqad. It did not happen 8 yrs ago- it happened yesterday.

[sqad617]

muppeteer...."of 8yrs"....I sincerely apologise, I should have read it more carefully.
My male advice.....get out and about, but remember, one door closes another one will open. You will feel cr@p but that is normal.
Sorry again muppeteer.