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Advice needed!!
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.poppy_76, this isn't an easy situation at all. It is obvious you have strong feelings for this guy, and all you are waiting for is him. What is the current situation with his wife? Are they separating/separated, or are they still together? You haven't made this clear.
In my opinion, you really need to think long and hard about what you want. If the man is still with his wife, can you face breaking up a marriage? Does this man love you? Has he told you what he wants? Maybe he thought it was easy whilst you were still based in the US, but now you've moved to Britain semi-permanently, he has wimped out?
I wish you all the best, whatever you decide, but I think it's ultimatum time!
Unfortunately the situation with his wife is that they are still living in the same house, albeit on separate floors, so they see each other every day. He still describes his situation to people as 'going through a separation' even though he has been doing this for a year. I don't want to break up a marriage, but he says he wants me & not her.
Apart from the ultimatum part the others are right. And you're not going to like this but can you really believe everything he says? Just because he stays over with you doesn't mean he isn't spinning a line with his wife too. If he does break free he may decide that he wants to be just that - free. I would tell him that the situation isn't comfortable anymore & that you may be around if he wants to get in touch once it's been sorted out. That way the ball's in his court & if he comes after you it will be because he really wants to.
Another thought - please consider the children. Would you be willing to accept them if his wife decided to hand them over to him or if anything happened to her?