Loves tough

[angel21]

don't know if I'm cut out for it

[jonah hart]

Wats wrong angel ? :)

[angel21]

Just the ex.

To cut a long story short, was with him for 4 years, split up, apart a yr and a half, went round his for a cup of tea on Weds and ended up staying until today.

Thing is I don't know what to do about him.

[pinktwink]

are yee looking at getting back together. ey angel there is someone special out there for everyone

[leggysgod]

Did he have your straighteners tho?�

[KingMangle]

sniffing around 21 year olds again leg?

[angel21]

Shut up bout the god damn hair straighteners leg! ;-)

Well, he hurt me quite a lot, was a bit controlling, quite a few things not good about him but I kinda am drawn to him still something is still there. He wants me back and says he loves me and has apologised about the abortion and says he will regret it for the rest of his days and it was all his fault. Which I am glad he has finally talked to me about it.

I think I'm just gonna get him to prove a few things to me and see what happens. Whether there is a chance of another go or not. But I'm not gonna hope too much.

Thing is its a bit dodgy going round to meet him too to talk as my dad would like to kill him and they live in the same village.

Its a long story.

[leggssod]

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[pinktwink]

dont rush into anything be sure of yourself and take care

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[pinktwink]

i guess you wouldn't know as it doesnt relate to you ^^^

[pastafreak]

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[sqad617]

We have dozens of these "what shall I do, I really love him "etc etc and it's always from women!!!!

There will be a thread of about 30posts that we all have seen before and at the end of the day the questioner will do exactly what they knew they would do in the first place.

Good luck.

[rinkins]

Angel are you OK? x

[angel21]

Hi Rinkins

Just having a dilemma with the ex. Went round on Weds, got home on Sunday.

He wants me back. Don't know if he deserves another chance and he will have to change a bit first and prove some stuff to me before I even consider it.

There are still some feelings there and I can't stay away from him, we always get drawn together.

Know what I need to do now though.

[asmodeus]

ʇɐɥʇ ʇǝƃɹoɟ ɹǝʌǝu 'uosɐǝɹ ɐ ɹoɟ xǝ uɐ sı ǝɥ

[rinkins]

What are you going to do?

[jonah hart]

U can't just turn ur feelings on an off .. If only u cud :( I think ur very aware of ur feelings an sound like u av ur own mind angel.. I think as long as u do for u an not wats expected you'll b fine.. Take sum time out from him an see how u feel an trust ur instincts :) x

[andy-hughes]

When you have left a long-term relatrionship, it is very easy to slip back into it, even on a 'temporary basis' as you have done.

You feel lonely and vulnerable, and to spend some time with someone who used to represent security and happiness, coupled with physical comfort and satisfcation is an easy pretend to indulge but ...

it is a pretend, and that is the important thing.

What you are doing is taking the bits of the relationship that make you feel better now, but none of the parts that split you up in the first place.

This feeling is unsettling, makes you wonder if you were right to split, and if it could work a second time.

It is an illusion. The 'nice bits' would wear off very quickly, and the problems wil surface, and you will split again.

You need to be strong. Stay away from him. Don't put yourself in a situation where sex is going to happen, it doesn't assist in clear thinking.

Concentrate on building your life without him. Se friends, go out, get comfortable with your own company, and these temporary 'was it right to split?' feelings will evaporate like the mirage that they are.

Good luck.

[ummmm]

The bottom line is....love shouldn't be tough.