Just my opinion, but it would seem to me that you would have something of a relationship with someone before you let him finger you. And hopefully that relationship would be open enough where you could discuss his preferences...because the shaving question is a matter of personal preference.
Whatever you do get upto with the opposite sex, first make sure you are mature enough, old enough legally, and your reason for wanting to do it is because you and the person in question have mutually decided that you are ready- and not just because your friends are doing it.
how do you know all of your mates are getting fingered?? do you believe everything they tell you? and would you jump of a cliff if they did??? hhhmmmm????
And cant you put 'fingered' in a more dignified way, it sounds so grotesk.
My doctor told me that you should not take iron supplements unless you have been told that you need it. He also told me that they used to give iron tablets out automatically to pregnant ladies years ago, but stopped doing it because apparently only 10% needed it and the remaining 90% were taking it unnecessarily. I was one of those who was given iron when I was pregnant but told to stop as it was making me really sick and I didn't need it anyway.
Oh saduser, I share the same sentiment as most of the others. When I read your question I thought it sounded awful. I'm sorry, but someone has to tell you this otherwise you'll think its OK to do it.