serious sex question

[happytohelp]

hey i hope this doesnt get taken off and hope it does not offend ayone but  i need some serious sex advice. I have only had sex a few times but when i do i always get the feeling something is not quite right, it seems like the males pnis can never stay in me fully  always having to readjust, doesit mean im not tight enough in some way? i also cant even tell whether my prtner has ejaculate or not?should  i be abletoo?  this may all be down to nexperience but  i could really use some tips?thanks everyone x

[andy hughes]

You don't need to worry about the 'adjustment' bit. The male penis has hundreds of senstivie nearve ends, it is the touch and stimulation of these that gives your partner pleasure. Because various nerve ends cravev stimulation at different times, and with different intensity, your partner will adjust his position intinctively in aswer to these nerve messages. It is perfectly normal, and nothing for you to worry about. The idea that you are not tight enough is probably unfounded - it is in fact an excecllent sign that you are relaxed and lubricated enough to enjoy sex easily - the reverse of the most common problem women experience. In respect of your partner's ejaculation, again nothing to worry about. The nerves in your vagina again respond differently, with varying sensitivity - some will actually fail to register the additional impact of semen, given that you are already well lubricated and relaxed.  DSome women feel it, some don't, it can vary with the partner, and the strength of his ejaculation, but if your partner has no complaints, then don't owry about it. As you say, this is a matter of experience, but is sounds like you are getting all the important parts right, so go with the flow (pardon the pun!) and enjoy it.

[Bangkok]

It may also be because of the positions(s) you are both in.  Try simple, comfortable positions whilst you get used to each other.  There is no problem with stopping and re-adjusting, especially if you smile while you re-adjust. It's not supposed to be a competition or a test, as you learn more about your partner (and yourself), the more comfortable you will be. 

[Scarlett]

I see absolutley no reason why you should be able to feel ejaculation. There are relatively few nerve endings up there- hence the reason why we can wear tampons and not actually feel them (unless they are nearly falling out).

[zgma]

Hi happytohelp, another thing is that sex, like anything else, takes quite a bit of practice.  The slipping out and having to readjust lessens with practice.  I don't know that anyone will really be able to give you tips - just have fun discovering them yourself!