Fair ??

[jonah hart]

I fell out with my father in law an his wife 8 years ago .. The wife said something really nasty about my 2 kids who were very small at the time .. And haven't talked to them since .. But everytime they come visit my other half takes the kids to see them I'm not happy about it bit if I refuse then I've rest of the family on my back saying I'm being unfair so off they go .. But she was in the wrong she's never apologised yet I have to grin an bare while they go visit .. Av a right to b ****** off?

[sn�gs]

Rise above it... 8 years to be bearing a grudge is not healthy for anyone involved.

[jonah hart]

I agree 8 years is along time and if she apologised fine ... She was in the wrong it was quite sickening wat she said about 2 small children .. I send my kids off to see them but she won't let her kids come to me yet I'm the 1 who gets an hard time not her .. No one likes her but are so fake with her I can't b like that .. They don't send me a bday card but we have to send her 1 .. I no it's so petty and I do rise above it cos I let my kids go ... So while there all having fun I'm here waiting 4 the phone call to pick em up but it's got to b round the corner.. So frustrating ... But I've had me moan for the day now :) x

[momac]

I can't pretend to advise you,but it does look like you are getting the end of the sticky wicket,I really sympathise with you and hope you can get it sorted,I myself won't give in if I think I'm in the right,hope something goes right for you.

[jonah hart]

Thanks momac :) I feel a right moaner for putting it on here just wanted to get it off me chest I think :) x

[sara3]

this is the way I see it.. if they dropped dead tomorrow would you be sorry you hadn't done more to smooth things over?

a bit harsh.. but that's how it is for me.

if you're fine with that, then don't worry about it.

[jonah hart]

I do hold a grudge when me kids are involved :( not good ... I'm too stubborn to make the first move had I dun something wrong tho I wud b the first to apologise ...

[Dee Sa]

you have let them dictate what happens, poor you I do feel for you.
Dont wait around the corner, either drive up outside and toot up or do the proper thing and dont be the doormat waiting for the call, when they go there take yourself out for the day, do something you want to do and tell them to get a cab home or let the in laws drive them back, you have made it too easy to fit into their plans, stand up for yourself, why does your hubby/partner let them treat u like this ? has he no backbone to stand up to them, they should be begging you to see their grandchildren.
Say I have had enough and here is what I [ emphasis on the I] AM GOING TO DO IN FUTURE, no more waiting around, if you dont like the idea of me going out then dont go, put your foot down, be just as rude to them, as they are to you, see how they like it. Take a stand now, good luck.

[jonah hart]

Thanks alot 4 that dee sa :) I've argued a million times with my other half about it .. Still he says nothing I wish he would grow a back bone an say something about the way they treat me .. His responce is right I won't see them ever again which I don't want I just want him to stick up 4 me just once.. But I sopose I knew wat I was getting into when we
Met he's always been same .. Your advice as been noted tho thanks :)x

[Wak]

Why not ask your other half to read these replies?????
He might realise what a creepy toad he is!!!!!!!

[tamborine]

Dont give in to MIL - she needs to learn some manners! When your OH takes the kids to visit her take yourself off clubbing with mates & stay late enuf to inconvenience MIL (like 2am) so she has to have kids - arrive at her house drunk (with your mates) to collect kids; waking up everyone. When she moans, tell her she's 'forgotten how to have fun' & that you're not ready for burial!

That should 'wind her up' ;)