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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I agree with what's been said. I guess you to just weren't right for each other, people look for reasons when sometimes, there just aren't any. Just didn't work out. The feelings faded. Doesn't mean you didn't love her to start with.
The only thing I would say, is if you find yourself in this situation again, bail on the relationship before you have sex with someone else. From what you say, it doesn't seem like you were blissfully happy with this girl, then met someone else who blew you away, and you simply had to have her. You were having thoughts about other people before the event - you're not an animal - try and exercise some self-control next time, eh?
My gf of 11 years did the same to me. I was devastated at the time, but things over the years had just changed, and now I appreciate that things were probably not right although I would have happily continued blinded by my own feelings. She had just had enough of me and wanted to experience life and other things. It hurts because it is personal.
I am a nice person, a generous and affectionate boyfriend, but also a bit of a git and a lay about as well. I'm not perfect (but almost!) things were just not meant to be in that relationship. I am very happy now in my current relationship and am getting married in 14 months.