Question for Poodi

[hippyhoppy]

My mum popped her cloggs on Sunday.. funeral next Friday.. how do I cope.. how don't I dissolve in a puddle of tears.. what will my kids think of their mother being a big old Jessie.. can't stop crying today

[ummmm]

Why cover up how you feel? People won't expect you to put on a brave face. It's not healthy either. I still cry for my Dad most days....and I don't care who sees me. His brother died 7 months before him and my Dad sobbed and he didn't care who seen him. Don't bottle it.

I'm really sorry for your loss xx

[caslass]

Hippy I'm very sorry for your loss, your kids will understand.

[stonekicker]

it's natural to be distraught when something like this happens. you don't have to be strong for yoyur children - open and honest is good - and you need to draw strength together. that's what family grieving is about. my thoughts and condolences are with you and your family, hippy x

[LoftyLottie]

I am so sorry.

Cry buckets if you need to. It is good for you and it's what is expected. People won't be watching you, they may be crying to, or thinking their own thoughts and grieving in their own way.

[hippyhoppy]

Sunday I was fine, yesterday I was ringing round canelling cards and shutting down accounts...today I can't stop crying...

[ummmm]

That's normal...everything is normal when it comes to grief xx

[LoftyLottie]

You were too busy and occupied to think much yesterday. Today it has hit you. Have a good cry - it's very natural. You may actually find you don't cry at the funeral or even shortly afterwards.

I lost my mother last March. Because of other serious illness, and other pressing commitments at the time, I just didn't have the time to stop and think. I seriously started grieving and thinking a lot about her at Christmas, and it seems worse now in some ways.

I wish you the best for next Friday

[kitty1950]

Why on earth are you thinking about what other people think of you? you have lost your mother, we only ever have one. My mother died in 1972 when I was 22, at the time I had three small children to look after and never had proper time to grieve so even now I cry when I hear certain songs or read sad stories, so just do what you feel and let it all out, kids are very resiliant. Take care, love Kath.

[China Doll]

I think your kids will learn that it is perfectly acceptable and normal to grieve and need consolaton, sympathy and patience when you have lost someone dear to you and the 'big old jessie' thing is entirely a load of rubbish.... You just let it out, it'd be worse if you kept it in. Take care of yourself and sorry to hear of your loss xx

[Mamyalynne]

hippyhoppy firstly, you have my sympathy, secondly your children and anyone else who sees will know how much you love your Mum and if they don`t its their fault not yours.
Don`t try to be too strong and accept any help you are offered.

Take Care

Mamya ♥

[Mamyalynne]

Who fed me from her gentle breast,
And hushed me in her arms to rest,
And on my cheek sweet kisses prest?
My Mother.

When pain and sickness made me cry,
Who gazed upon my heavy eye,
And wept, for fear that I should die?
My Mother.

Who dressed my doll in clothes so gay,
And fondly taught me how to play,
And minded all I had to say?
My Mother.

Who ran to help me when I fell,
And would some pretty story tell,
Or kiss the place to make it well?
My Mother.

And can I ever cease to be
Affectionate and kind to thee,
Who was so very kind to me?
My Mother

[cazzz1975]

that poem would have me in tears mamya xx

sorry to hear of your loss hippy, I think your kids will expect you to shed some tears especially on the funeral, dont beat yourself up for it xxx

[Sachs]

hippy,
very sorry xxx

[Dris]

Can only echo the previous posters.I am terribly sorry for your loss and the poem from Mamya was just so very apt :( xx

[poodicat]

Hi hippyhoppy so sad that you are going through the same pain as me,for me i have had to be quite robotic about all the legal and sorting out of my mums house that to be honest i havent cried much at all and for that i feel guilty,but you release your feelings and you shouldnt have to feel bad about doing it,how old are your children?if they are older believe me they will understand more than you think,did you lose her suddenly or did she have a long illness,everyone is different how they react to this kind of situation and their will be some lovely abers on here to give you support,i have laughed at some of the things mum did thats how i got through it,and will probably bawl my heart when i can see a light at the end of the tunnel,so we are all here for you and try to think of your mum with some laughter and tears and you will get through it everyone takes a different time to healxxxt

[lil75]

Hippyhoppy, you dont have to hide, its natural to be upset...my thoughts are with you xxx

[Eve]

My thoughts are with you too xxx

I was with my mum when she lost her mum, we were both with m wy nan when she died and the grief is only natural and more real than someone trying to hide it.

[CherryBea24]

Hippy so sorry for your loss, like I said recently lost my Mum too
Mamya's poem made me cry, I miss her everyday.

Keeping you in my thoughts

Cherry

[welshlibranr]

Don't worry about your kids seeing you cry, they'll understand why you're crying, better to let them see you cry than keep it all inside! they need to see and understand emotions, they will learn from this that it's ok to show your emotions, which can only be good for them............my thoughts are with you at this very sad time..............