why cant we get pregnant

[shellie]

me and my fiance have been trying to have a baby for over two years and weve been the doctors and weve been tested and been told theres nothing obvious wrong and its starting to get us down especially as our friends have got partners and have had babies so easy after not trying has anybody been through this and possibly have some advise as we are only 23 and and 25 but weve always wanted a young family

[4getmenot]

you mean a family young. Some people do take longer to conceive. You've done the right thing going and getting tested, just let nature take its course. xx

[poodicat]

Wouldnt it be best to get married first and then think about babies,whats the point of getting engaged

[4getmenot]

Oooh I never spotted that. have you got a date yet? As maybe that is what is stressing you out, organising the wedding. You should maybe get that out the way first and not stress to much about it all.

[Selfridge81]

Hi shellie. I know its hard and frustrating. We are trying also even on right days, yet nothing happened. Have u done ovulation tests, charting and SMEP (Sperm Meets Egg Plan)? Wish u luck :)

[ummmm]

Poodi....do ever say anything positive?

Shellie....I have read many times that if you stop trying, it happens. Maybe try not trying....live life as it is and enjoy it for what it is....focus on something else. You're young, have a good time, appreciate your time with your fiancé, enjoy life.....it'll happen xx

[poodicat]

Sorry ummm maybe i have values,like to be come engaged and then marry not they another way round,thats the way i was brought up

[4getmenot]

thats what I was going to say ummm, stop planning, start living!!

[boxtops]

Umm's right - enjoy your time together. Being anxious about getting pregnant may be making you both tense (even though you might not realise it) and that's not the way to do it. It'll be the time you're not thinking about it when it happens!

[tamborine]

Surely you test a car before you buy it ;)

[4getmenot]

yer but then you do usually buy it

[poodicat]

Old school,i know its different these days!

[4getmenot]

I dont agree in no sex before marriage and would happily have babies without being married. But I do agree that to be engaged means the next step is marriage. No point being engaged just for the sake of it. Thats probably why my bloke has never asked as he know I'd be booking the venue the next day lol

[ummmm]

Oh really Poodi.....do you frown on sex before marriage? Ever done it yourself?

Even my Mother, a born again Christian, does not frown upon me.....welcome to 2010..!!

[poodicat]

Ummmm no i dont, what i am saying planning a baby when you are engaged and producing a baby and then getting married

[tamborine]

under warranty.....send it back if it doesn't work.

[4getmenot]

lets agree everybody can have a different opinion

[4getmenot]

lol tamb

[poodicat]

Agree forget

[4getmenot]

dont want to stress shellie out with any arguing now do we :-)

[ummmm]

A baby is more of a commitment than a wedding ring. You can divorce a partner but you can't (in most cases) divorce a child....