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new relationship advice please.
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i've been single for 10 months after a seriously hard break up last year . i've just started seeing someone new for the first time. i really like the new guy and he's making me feel very happy but i'm just concerned that he seems to want to see me every evening already and weekend.
it's so nice that he's keen but i don't feel that i want a 'spend every minute with each other' type relationship just yet. i want to take it slow and just have fun getting to know each other.
i'm also worried why he's doing this,whether it's due to some sort of insecurity on his part as i remember my ex (the one that dropped me from a great height last year) being like this during the early days and that in hindsight was an insecurity thing.
i've put new guy off tonight and get the vibe he is a little miffed. :O(
i know i need to tackle it with him but i dont want it to sound like i don't enjoy being with him.
any thoughts /advice on this or how i should deal with this will be appreciated.
it's so nice that he's keen but i don't feel that i want a 'spend every minute with each other' type relationship just yet. i want to take it slow and just have fun getting to know each other.
i'm also worried why he's doing this,whether it's due to some sort of insecurity on his part as i remember my ex (the one that dropped me from a great height last year) being like this during the early days and that in hindsight was an insecurity thing.
i've put new guy off tonight and get the vibe he is a little miffed. :O(
i know i need to tackle it with him but i dont want it to sound like i don't enjoy being with him.
any thoughts /advice on this or how i should deal with this will be appreciated.
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thing is though, a lot of new relationships start that way when you both really like each other...was it a bit of a whirlwind type thing?
because these tend to be very intense and all or nothing kind of thing... but gradually they tend to settle into a more even keel as you get to know each other and the initial 'buzz' wears off a bit
because these tend to be very intense and all or nothing kind of thing... but gradually they tend to settle into a more even keel as you get to know each other and the initial 'buzz' wears off a bit
I think vibrasphere has got to the root cause of your issue.
You need to establish some boundaries and simple rules, for both of you. It's easy, but ultimately bad, to drop all friends and interests for one new man. Bring the issue up, and see how he reacts. It will give you a good idea of whether or not you have any future - short-term or long-term - to look at.
You need to establish some boundaries and simple rules, for both of you. It's easy, but ultimately bad, to drop all friends and interests for one new man. Bring the issue up, and see how he reacts. It will give you a good idea of whether or not you have any future - short-term or long-term - to look at.