Jelousy?

[sarah18]

Why do we get jelous of our partner? -No trust? Love? etc.

I'm becoming a really jelous person i was not like this before i met my boyfriend, he is a very jelous person, over the topp! i'm becoming to think like him and act jelous about stupid little things :s..

[cazzz1975]

you have answered you own question in a lot of ways, when you spend time with a person, part of their personality will rub off onto you, his behaviour will become normal and you may even adopt some of it...which is what looks like is happening here

[MarkRae]

> Why do we get jelous of our partner?

Insecurity, fear, uncertainty and doubt.

By the way, it's *jealous*...

[Mamyalynne]

If I may be bold you sound quite young, jealousy is very often a sign of insecurity and as you mature you will learn to control it. Especially if you have the right partner.

[Canary42]

End it now - it'll eat away at the relationship like a canker.

[jackthehat]

Isn't he on remand..........?

[sarah18]

Wow fank you, im definetly not insecure but you are right i guess my partners personality is rubbin onto mee!

what to dooo?

and yes i am quite young :)

[caslass]

Is this the partner that is in Jail?

[sarah18]

(Jackthehat) yes he is

[jackthehat]

So what on earth are you finding him doing that causes you such great jealousy ?

[sarah18]

Its not me its him and its left me like that too..
These were the problems from before but obviously he still is that way, i dont blame him because of where he is at the moment.. I just dont understand why some say that its Jealousy=Love :s

[boxtops]

No sarah, jealousy and love are not at all the same things. What are you jealous about?

[sarah18]

But they say that when you love someone its normal to feel jealous beacuse of the thought that they can be with someone else other than you i guess..

[jackthehat]

Is he getting particularly fond of his cell-mate, or something ?

[cazzz1975]

normally feelings of jealousy arise when the person does not feel good about themselves, then insecurity takes over.

[boxtops]

That's insecurity, not jealousy. When my OH goes out to work and is away for several days (which happens often), I don't fret about who he's with and what he's doing. He knows the score as well as I do, playing away is not part of the deal. You have to have self-confidence and believe in yourself - if your bloke is jealous that you might be seeing someone else then it's a problem with him, not you. I do beleive it's not uncommon for people in prison to worry about what their other halves are doing while they are shut up.

[sarah18]

And Noo im sure his straightt, if you re read what i wrote you'l see that im talking about jelousy in general and from the past not present. (jackthehat)

Your right cazzz i guess its a bit of all that..

[jackthehat]

How long have you been with your boyfriend ?

[sarah18]

Just about 2 years on and off

[jackthehat]

Since you were about 16 ?