rape victims

[help please!]

my younger sister was raped 3 yrs ago, aged 14. i want to know how survivers cope. i want to know if they ever get over it. as far as im concerned they never do, the scars run too deep. how do the families of these victims handle it, how did/do they cope. Do they notice a change in persionality forever. Are there any websites on how to deal, about what goes on in their heads, how it changes them etc. do they get over it, how to help them years on even.

[Kay]

Im so sorry, I have a dear friend who was raped several years ago. UK Survivors is a group for  physically and mentaly abused people and my friend has been a member for a while. Go to Google,put in as above and scroll down a bit. Good luck to you all,especially your sister.xx

[Corkyb]

I admire your concern and compassion for your sister and family, and your interest in finding help for everyone. From personal experience it can take a long time to come to terms with any traumatic event, whether you are the victim or one of those closely involved. Love, support and understanding goes a long way to help the victim move on from the trauma.

If you are in the UK, try some of these links. Each one gives advice and other contacts that may be of help to you all.

http://survive.org.uk

http://www.rapeline.org.uk/helpline3.htm

http://www.bbc.co.uk/crime/support/rape.shtml

If you are in the USA, try Google for Rape Support in your state. (That's the search string I used for the UK search)

 

Good luck and I wish you all well.

Take care

[whiteangel40]

First and foremost, I am truely sorry for what has happened to your sister ..and yourself and family!

you asked if you ever get over it? well from exprience , I guess you don't ever get over it but with time and councelling you start healing , learn to allow it to stop controlling you.being allowed to opening talk if needed.My thoughts are with you all especally your sister....

whiteangel40

[candiceivy]

I am a survivor of rape and of incest. I am a mother of three and I am in school fulltime. I did not start off this way I learned  how to pray for myself, I recieved counseling, and when I need support my family was there for me. They pushed me right back out in to the mean old world and helped learn how to cope with fears of being raped again. I still remember the two rapes and the countless times I was molested by my (7) uncles. The pain never goes away and because of the pain I can spot someone who is hurting inside as I use to. I talk to youg ladies who are working on their survival skills and am there as a sounding board for those who need to vent. I can't stress enough that a prayer life is IMPORTANT! I was angry with God because I felt that he could have stopped it or just never let it happen to me.However, through my prayers God began to answer back and let me know that I had survived this awful attack over and over again. He let me know that living through the pain was helping me help someone else. So forgetting is not part of the process, but remembering is part of the healing. Now get up and live the life that is meant for you to live! God loves you and so do I. Don't forget to live.

You are in my prayers...................I hope that God continues to grant you the serenity.......................