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Ok here it is... I used to live in Canada with my mom, i went up to visit my dad in the states ...and ended up staying there with him... And about 3 weeks ago, i came back to Canada( just for a visit) and I got offered a job at the border...Now if i take this job i will have the oppurtunity to make up to $60,000 american money a year as a Human Resource Manager!!!!!! Im only 18, so this seems like alot..But back at my dads , well my whole family is there...and i met an awesome guy there which if i go back, we will be more than friends!! And i just dont know what to do...i dont know if i should stay here and get some money...or go back to the states, where i would have someone who loves me, and not make as much money...but i would be happier... I just dont know...and im getting pressured by both parents to stay with them..example..my dad tells me to stay with him, my mom tells me to stay with her!...and its soo hard.. i just dont know what to doo...im too nice of a person and i feel bad when i hurt people..i want to make everyone happy... i just dont know what to do.. :(... LOVE or MONEY???But then again people can argue that there is always more fish in the pond, as in more guys out there...but i just dont know what to do...help abers :*(
ps...thank u for ur answers, they do mean a lot
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Go for the money. If this relationship with the new bloke is meant to be then it will work long distance. My husband and I lived 3 hours apart before we got married and we visited when we could. Much more fun was had by not seeing each other all the time. Think of it this way, if you can save a load of money and things work out with this guy, you'll have a nice little nest egg to set up home or go travelling together or something. I'm amazed that, at 18, you have the qualifications and experience to be an HR mananger. You may not get an offer like that again
Sounds glib, but believe me, go for the job. It is much more likely to have long term benefits for you, and a tangible immediate plus point. You maintain contact with parents (and others including awsome guy) whilst making the break and starting out on your own with a great job, prospects, salary and parent support.
Another glib thing: there's loads of awesome guys (and gals) in the world and at age 18 things seem so life shatering, but really the job opportunity is much more "important" to your future than any friendship, however close.
I often look back at choices I made that determined the direction that my life took, and the regrets that I didn't do so and so instead of such and such. I can remeber the emotional reasons for making job and location choices and still have some regrets. I also think back to those "special" relationships, and I can honestly say that they pale into insignificance in the scale of life changing influences. Enough, already!
I would take the job. You never know your friend would follow you to the border and find a job and soon there will be kids and school fees and tantrums. or you may find that your employer has an office near your fathers town and you could get a transfer and soon there will be kids and school fees and tantrums......yeah take the job love.
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