So Lets Shaft Our Farmers.....
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Perhaps without realising it, you are giving off vibes that say "I want a relationship".
Try approaching men as friends first, rather than sizing them up as potential dates, or future husbands/partners.
If you're worried about the size of your circle of friends, remember, it is better to have one good friend than a whole gaggle of people who won't be there for you when you need help and support.
Try joining a club or society that interests you, e.g writing, painting, gardening, rambling. You are likely to make new friends who have something in common with you that way.
And... remember, the one for you can come from the most surprising places. A friend of mine was bewailing the same as you - she said she never met any nice men. She joined a rambling group, but after going on a few weekend walks she was tempted not to go again, because they were "all old people". We talked her into persevering. Then she got invited to a birthday party for one of the members.... this woman's son turned out to be the man of her dreams and she is happily married with 2 kids now!
"I'd like to be happy for once"
From this closing statement I think that there is more than just a relationship issue. I am reading from your post that you have a lack a lot of confidence, and I think before trying to find that someone, you should focus on YOU.
Get out and about and into social situations, perhaps through work or a local college course or something. Men are 2 a penny (I should know I am one!!) and the decent ones don't tend to look on the internet for a partner (although it's not unheard of). Once you build up your own confidence and self-esteem you will find that people will respond more to you and who knows maybe the odd gentlemans eyelashes may flutter in your direction across the frozen peas!
Another person can make you feel happy and they can make you feel miserable, but the real path to happiness stems from within you - and you will need that for the times when relationships and things in life generally don't work out (promotion, getting that job etc). Focus on you first.