adult bullying...

[tinkerbell23]

anyone been a victim? what did you do? - was going to ask can this happen but personally i think of course it can xx

[boxtops]

It can, and it can take many forms. So much so that many employers now have bullying and harassment policies. However - it's a difficult one, what one person finds offensive and hard to manage, other people will find tolerable or even just ignore. It certainly happens in the workplace.

[Barmaid]

Yes it happened to me in a previous job. The woman concerned was an evil cow who made my life a living hell.

However, revenge is a dish best served cold..............Let's just say she can never work in that particular field again!

[tinkerbell23]

good for you barmaid!!.....what about outside the workplace guys aswell? x

[boxtops]

Not since school......

[Barmaid]

I do think one of the places it can and does happen is online. However, I don't want to start a whole "cyber bullying in AB" discussion which is probably outside Karen's initial intentions.

[Barmaid]

Sorry, tinkerbell, no idea why I put "Karen's" - I'd got it into my head this was karenmac posting. Doh. Bedtime methinks.

[tinkerbell23]

yeah...know what you mean...hmm difficult subject really isnt it! not everyone can get along i guess though....like you say online...also such as facebook, text msgs etc..x

[karenmac60]

I was accused of bullying last year - but the woman in question is actually very devious and manipulative. She'd be all nicey nicey to me in public then make really nasty comments when no one was about. If I wasn't over the top nice to her she'd burst into tears and tell everyone I was being horrible to her. She reported me after I left her a note asking her to do something (I'm her senior so it's within my remit to do this, and I put it in a note so she couldn't twist my words). She immediately ran to my boss and said I was bullying her but she couldn't give any specifics. It was horrible, and I still have to watch my every move round her so she can't use anything I've said against me.

[karenmac60]

Oh spooky - I was typing and BM thought of me. We must have psychic link ;)

[tiggerblue10]

I have. It happened about 3/4 years ago and it was my then line manager. Luckily I had evidence in email form. I used to go into work feeling full of dread and scared. It got so bad that I ended being signed off sick. My grievance was dealt with by an independant person who didn't know us and worked in a differet department. Although the conclusion stated that it wasn't bullying it was suggested that he should not manage me any further. When my countersigning manager saw the evidence she was shocked to see what was occuring and had him moved out of the department.

[AlBags]

Karen bullies me.

[karenmac60]

Al, shurrup or I'll spank you ;)

[ttfn]

Someone thought they would try bullying me at work - only the once mind. I can be very subtle and tactful but I am not called the queen of put downs for nothing. One or other approach works for me. I am an 'up front' sort of person and like to address any relationship problems as soon as I detect them (or even suspect them).

[tiggerblue10]

I've seen it happen on here as well.

[AlBags]

Wow ... you're there like a shot. More please ; )

[tinkerbell23]

to think about it it happened once or twice in my old work but it was dealt with swiftly....sort of cheeky comments left on my work etc....i think it must happen alot in works, i actually get it alot in my current job to be honest, but im also thinking on social situations too xx

[AlBags]

Molly's been bullied on here .. but she handles it pretty well TBH.

[karenmac60]

You're not to big to go over my knee you know!

[AlBags]

( )!( ) lol

[ttfn]

Molly has been bullied on here?
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