When your friend likes the person you like

[supersuezy24]

If you really liked someone and were texting and hanging out and getting on really well and then found out that your friend liked them too, what would you do?
Would you take a step back to prevent you friend getting hurt/jealous etc or would you still go ahead with the person you like?

In a similar situation and would appreciate some advice.
Thanks everyone :)

[albaqwerty]

I think I know what you're saying :)



How old are you lot? My lot (the crew) range between 17-19, sounds a bigger age range than it actually is. When birthdays are taken into account, the 19 years old is about 4 months older than the 18 year old and so on and so forth.

[supersuezy24]

thats the thing that's infuriating me alba, we're all 26/27, It's so bloody stupid, just think he should stand up to his mate rather than worrying about him

[supersuezy24]

Thanks Rowan, I hope so ;)

[woofgang]

I reckon if he was really interested in you then his friend's feelings wouldn't be in the equation....since his friend's feelings are in the equation......

[albaqwerty]

I think rowan is correct about this one.

At 26/27 they sound too immature to be bothered about. You might like him a lot suezy, but when the right one comes along you'll know.

Let them carry on playing with their lego...

[supersuezy24]

get ya woofgang, agree with you..he needs to grow up, it's all very noble worrying about your friends but sometimes ya need to back off and live your own life

[joeluke]

To quote Harry Hill............Fight!

Hope it works out the way you want it to suezy

[karenmac60]

It's sometimes a kind of 'code of honour' thing with guys Suezy. I've known men a good bit older than that walk away from what could be great relationships because it would hurt their friends. I think you sit him down and have a long talk, if he is determined that you're out of bounds then you need to accept that and move on. Sorry x

[4getmenot]

I really liked someone and my mate didnt tell me she liked him too, they got together and then I found out, I was gutted she hadnt said but years down line she's not with him after he got on drugs and beat her so I had a lucky escape. So if I were you just carry on as you were, he hasnt got a tag on him saying he belongs to your mate, she is perfectly happy liking him and not being worrie about you, at end of day really its the blokes choice who he gets with, it will all happen the way it does for a reason. x

[chelle7272]

Hi suezy, I have to say I agree with what alba has said good advice!
If it was me, if a guy knocked me back because his friend liked me then he obviously isn't 'the one' as you would be more important. You ahev said all you need to and the ball is in his court so to speak. Think of yourself first and don't waste time with people who sound, honestly at 26/27 quite immature.
You have time, I made plenty of mistakes, including my son's dad, until I found 'the one' at the age of 30+.
best wishees

[supersuezy24]

I must have the worst bloody taste in men ever!!!!
Have decided to just leave this be, he doesn't want to get into a relationship with me for fear of upsetting his friend(god forbid his friend got upset like!!!) yet he wants the benefits that come with the relationship just not the tag but behind his friends back...Yeah that's noble..NOT!!! What a tool!!!!
I feel like such a gobsh!te for liking this fcuking tool!

[joko]

if a man truly likes you and wants to be with you - wild horses wont stop him being with you...

sorry but it sounds like its that immortal line - hes just not that into you

[OuCy]

This guy's full of s***. Time waster. Get away from both of them and find yourself a real man!

[joko]

if oyu were his mates ex id undertsand but his mate probably just doesnt want him to have someone

my fellas mate hated me because he felt id taken his mate away, and was not longer just there whenever he wanted him...tried to split us up

[sandyRoe]

There's more than one way to skin a cat

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oPOiaAU_vJg

[english_geek123]

let them decide

[supersuezy24]

As i said above, i have decided to just leave things with this idiot, he only wants one thing.
Wants the benefits that come with a relationship but doesn't actually want a relationship, regardless of whether he used his friend as an excuse he is a tool!! Well shot of him, feel like a clown for liking him in the first place!

[rowanwitch]

Never feel bad about stuff like this....just learn move on do better....