OLD MAN / YOUNG GIRL-OLD WOMAN / YOUNG BOY

[chas2008]

how come a middle aged (or older ) man comments on a young female hes considered a 'dirty old man' an older woman makes similiar comments and its considered funny or a laugh ....

[hc4361]

Is it?

[MarkRae]

Historical stereotyping...

[Prudie]

Clarify young

[NOX]

Not entirely sure that's true actually chas as I know my mother in law took a HUGE amount of flack when she married a man a lot younger than her. By contrast when I went out with a much younger woman not that may people commented on it, albeit the age difference was less and probably less noticeable. I think what you're talking about is somthing as Mark says to do with stereotyping, and the stereotype is that men are predatorial and women are not, therefore there is something more untoward in a man going out with a younger women than vice versa. None of that is accurate obviously but it is some people's perceptions, especially if they lead very sheltered lives.

[milly143]

I kind of agree. Old men who eye up young women are known as letches/perves whilst women who eye young men up are given the rather title of cougar, which seems to be something good.

[andy-hughes]

It is about perception - and cultural acceptance.

I do think it's down to the way the comment is expressed. If I am in company, talking about an attractive younger lady, I will usually add in a depricating comment about how a lovely young woman like that would not be interested in an old married man like me - takes any misunderstanding away at source.

[chas2008]

milly, like your style, only asked the question as one of the women cleaners here (50+) was making comments about one of our young lads 18ish, to the male members of staff...if i had made similiar comments about one of the 18 year old office girls to the women i could be up for sexual harrasment..etc.
.. just thought its all a little bit one sided

[andy-hughes]

It is - and life is like that - you have to remember to make allowances.

I recall some years ago bending over a filing cabinet to retrieve a file, and receiving a very firm slap on my nether regions from an attractive collaague, much to the amusement of the rest of the office.

i wondered simultaneously if their joy would be similarly unconfined if our positions had been reversed!

[DTCwordfan]

An 85 year old mn married his 25 year old girlfriend.

4 months later he was dead.

Her friends allowed her a respectable amount of time and then asked her "What was he like?"

"Oh very kind, considerate, generous and compassionate, a real sweetie."

"We don't mean like that, what was he like in bed."

"Oh! that - well he was fecking fantastic. None of this 'wham bang, thank you ma'am' approach to sex that besets youth."

She continued, smiling with the memory, her girl friends agog.

"Took his time mind you, bulit me up and some huge multiple orgasms as a result. He really knew how to turn a woman on."

Smiling even more, and with her girlfriends mouths now wide open in amazement.

"He used to build me up and then to the sound of the church bells. 'Ding, Dong. Ding, Dong, well you get the picture."

"He'd sill be alive today if that bloody fire engine hadn't gone pass!"

[Slapshot]

Don't forget to factor in women's rules.....they make them up as they go along!!